1. Don’t be cliche. If your list of interests include drinking coffee, watching Netflix, and eating pizza, then you’re just like every other girl on the site. Set yourself apart by mentioning something unique.
2. Don’t act like you’re okay with a casual relationship. Unless you want to be used for sex, then tell your matches what you’re looking for from the get-go. There are two types of people on dating sites. The type that want sex and the type that want love. Being honest will push the wrong people away and draw the right ones in.
3. Don’t accidentally end the conversation by saying “lol” or using a GIF that he has no clue how to respond to. If the conversation is dying, come up with a new topic.
4. Don’t talk dirty. I don’t care how well you’re hitting it off. You can flirt and exchange dirty jokes all you want, but there’s no reason to sext before meeting him in person. If you do, he’ll assume you’re game for a hookup.
5. Don’t hesitate to start the conversation. If they matched with you, then they want to talk to you. There’s nothing to worry about. So start typing.
6. Don’t start off with a boring conversation. Don’t ask him what he does for a living or how his day was. Ask him about a show he mentioned in his bio or the dog in his photo. Talk about something that won’t bore you both to tears before you even get to know each other.
7. Don’t agree to meet him at his apartment. If he wants to hang out alone, he only wants sex. Besides, you don’t know if you’re getting catfished yet, so it’s safer to meet in a public place.
8. Don’t continue talking over the app. Once you find someone you really click with, give him your number. That way, you won’t have to log onto Tinder or Bumble or OkCupid to have a conversation with him.
9. Don’t feel bad for ending a conversation. A super “sweet” guy might try to guilt trip you when you stop responding to him, but you don’t owe him anything. If you don’t like him, you don’t have to respond to him. He’ll get over it.
10. Don’t try to come across as cooler than you actually are. Don’t use the only photo you have from the gym as your profile picture if you hate hiking and biking and moving from the couch. You don’t want to attract the wrong type of guy.
11. Don’t judge other people based off of their photos alone. Their bio exists for a reason, and it matters way more than their pictures do. I know it’s easy to be shallow over social media, but don’t you value personality over appearance?
12. Don’t swipe right on every profile you see. It’ll be a confidence boost when you match with thirty people per day, but it isn’t going to get you anywhere. You’re not looking for a million strangers to validate you. You’re looking for one person you can truly connect with, so swipe sparingly.