Why Dating Sucks When You Act Like You Don’t Give AF But Are Secretly Sensitive

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Dating sucks in general, but it’s even worse when you’re the type of girl who acts like she doesn’t give a fuck when she’s secretly a soft, sensitive soul. You can’t keep up the charade forever. Well, you can, but it’s going to make your dating life much harder than it has to be.

Men hurt you without even realizing it.

You do such a good job of acting like you have thick skin that some men actually believe you’re heartless. That’s why they’ll lie and cheat and shatter your heart, and they won’t even feel bad about it. After all, you didn’t break down in tears in front of them. You didn’t beg them to take you back. So you must be fine, right? They’re wrong, of course, but they don’t know that, so you’re left to suffer alone. They’ll never know how much they hurt you, and you’re not exactly sure if that’s a good thing or a bad thing.

You feel like a hypocrite.

You know you don’t need a man to survive. You’re always the first one to tell your BFF to dump her asshole boyfriend and to remind her that single life isn’t all that bad. That’s why you refuse to cry when your crush ends up screwing you over. If you let yourself dwell on the fact that he let you down, then you’d feel like a horrible feminist, like a weak woman–and you’re neither of those things. But you have to remember that it’s okay to have feelings. It’s okay to let your guard down. It’s okay to be upset over a boy.

No one tiptoes around your feelings.

Whenever your crush makes a mean comment, you laugh it off or say something mean right back. You seem like you can take whatever he throws at you. That’s why he’ll make the same types of comments again and again without thinking twice. He doesn’t think it’s a big deal, even though it’s killing you inside. Your I-don’t-give-a-fuck attitude is actually encouraging his bullshit behavior.

You pretend to hate relationships way more than you actually do.

You overcompensate for the fact that you’re single and secretly want a boyfriend by swearing that you’ll never date. That a relationship is completely out of the question. That you’re not willing to waste a second of your precious time with some boy. You’re trying to convince yourself that you’re happier now than you’d ever be with a man, because you don’t want to live a life full of regrets. 

You don’t want anyone to get the wrong idea. 

If you complained about being single, then your friends might start to feel bad for you, and the last thing you want is their pity. Their lives aren’t any better than yours, just because they happen to have boyfriends, but if you complain enough, they might be fooled into thinking that they’re superior. You don’t want that. And you don’t want to be the girl who’s always whining about a boy, either. That’s jut not you. TC mark

The truth is that you can be struggling and still be loved.

You don’t have to solve your whole life tonight. You just have to show up and try. Focus on the most immediate thing in front of you. You’ll figure out the rest along the way.

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