1. Use lube. Just remember, lube isn’t meant to replace your natural wetness. If you’re not turned on at all, sex will still hurt, even with the lubrication.
2. Foreplay for at least fifteen or twenty minutes before you have sex. Masturbate in your car before you see him if you have to. Just make sure that you’re wet enough for penetration.
3. Ask him to go slow. Instead of having him shove his cock in you, have him tease you with the tip first and then move in slowly.
4. Or you could start even smaller by having him place a finger inside of you. And then another finger. Once you’re comfortable enough, let him use his cock.
5. Don’t shower or shave right before sex. Warm water could dry out your vaginal tissue and shaving could irritate it.
6. You might be allergic to latex. Try using a lambskin condom and see if there’s any change.
7. If you’re stressed, your muscles are going to tense up and cause pain during penetration. That’s why you need to relax with your partner. Let go of all of your worries and just enjoy the moment.
8. Try switching the type of soaps, shaving creams, and detergents you’re using. A certain product might be causing inflammation and irritation down there.
9. See your doctor if there’s any signs of an STD or a UTI, like a rash or the frequent need to urinate.
10. If it turns out that you do have a UTI, wait until it clears up to have sex. Otherwise, you’ll be in pain the entire time. You just have to wait it out.
11. Try doing Kegel exercises by clenching and unclenching your pelvic floor muscles throughout the day. It’ll help you learn how to relax your muscles down there, so that penetration is easier on you.
12. Try a new sex position. You could get on top, so you’re the one in control of the penetration or you could have him get behind you. Even though missionary is popular, some women claim it’s painful, so try something new for a change.
13. Don’t hesitate to give him instructions. If it hurts when he thrusts too quickly or too deeply, then ask him to slow down. Be vocal about your needs.
14. Make sure to pay attention to your clitoris. If visual stimulation doesn’t get you off, then your best bet is to rub your clit for a bit before you let him inside of you.
15. Remember that it’s okay to turn down sex. If you’re not in the mood, and know it would be hard for you to get into the mood, then tell him it’s a no-go. Quality is better than quantity.
16. If you’re in pain in the middle of sex, tell him to stop, and don’t you dare feel bad about it. If he actually cares about you, he’d never want to hurt you.
17. You don’t have to have penetrative sex. You could give and receive oral. You could use sex toys on each other. You could masturbate side-by-side. Do whatever feels best for you, because your boyfriend isn’t the only one who deserves an orgasm.