You’re Not ‘Crazy’ Because You Feel Too Much

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You cry whenever your ex’s face pops into your mind. You cry even harder when you think about all of the good times you two have shared. That’s okay. You’re not crazy, just because you’re in touch with your emotions.

You should embrace your sensitive side.

Don’t let anyone convince you that getting attached easily is a bad thing. It means that you’re optimistic. It means that you see the best in people. It means that you have an open mind and an open heart. That’s not something to be ashamed of. You’re the type of woman that any man would be blessed to have.

It’s healthy to express your emotions. 

You know what’s unhealthy? Bottling everything up inside until you snap. So don’t be afraid to let your emotions loose. Cry your eyes out. Scream into a pillow. Tear apart old pictures of your exes. It doesn’t matter what you do, as long as you let yourself feel. You’re not a robot. No one expects you to keep it together twenty-four seven. Everybody freaks out from time to time, so give yourself a break and let yourself break.

Feeling too intensely is better than being numb.

If you’ve recently had your heart broken, you might think that being numb is better, but it’s not. When you’re numb, you can’t feel the immense sadness stripping you of your soul, but you can’t feel happiness, either. You can’t feel excitement or lust or love. You don’t want to live like that. It’s not really living at all.

You’re supposed to go after what you want. 

If you’re not being called crazy, you’re probably being called desperate, which is just as ridiculous. There’s nothing wrong with going after what you want. If you want to date a guy, ask him out. If you want to kiss a guy, lean in. Most men will be turned on by your go-getter attitude. The men who consider you psycho aren’t worth the time it would take to say, “fuck you” to them.

It’s not your fault for falling in love.  

Fuckboys will claim you’re crazy for falling for them, even though they’ve spend months leading you on. They know damn well that it’s not your fault for developing feelings after they complimented you, flirted with you, and slept with you. They just don’t want to take responsibility for what they’ve done. They want to act like their actions don’t have any consequences, because they never technically promised to be your boyfriend. So if a guy calls you crazy after you get pissed at him for sleeping with someone else, even though you two have been seeing each other for months, then you’re not the one who has to work on herself. He does.

You’re allowed to express your opinion.

You’ll get criticized when you try to hold back your emotions and say you’re fine when you’re not. There’s no way to win, so you might as well choose to go with the truth. After all, you won’t be able to solve your problems, unless you straight up tell your boyfriend what he did wrong. If you keep quiet, then he’s never going to get the hint, and you’ll be stuck dealing with his crap forever more.

The right guy will appreciate your open heart

Your soulmate will want you to embrace the way you feel. When you cry, he won’t go looking for a new girl who pretends she’s heartless. He’ll encourage you to tell him what’s on your mind and will be there to help you through your pain. When the tables are turned, he’ll even cry in front of you. That’s what real couples do. They refuse to hold back. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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