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The ‘Damaged Girl’ Actually Makes The Best Girlfriend

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Damaged girls are the most sinfully sexy, imperfectly perfect people you’ll ever meet. We aren’t flawless, but who is? At least we admit that we have faults. At least we’re working on ourselves. You couldn’t ask for anything more in a girlfriend.

We know what it’s like to be hurt. 

We’ve dealt with our fair share of assholes. In fact, pretty much every guy we’ve ever come across has turned out to be a major manipulator. That’s why we know what it’s like to be wrongfully sexualized, to be lied to and led on, and to feel like complete and utter shit. It’s a pain no one should endure, especially when they’re innocently looking for love. That’s why we’re not going to treat you the way that we’ve been treated in the past. We’re going to treat you right.

We won’t judge you for your baggage. 

Truth be told, we’re pretty fucked up. But that means there’s no way in hell we’re going to judge you for your baggage. You have trust issues, because you’ve been cheated on? It’s okay. So do we. You have a fear of commitment, because of your divorced parents? Us too! We understand what you’ve been through, because we’ve been through hell and back, too.

We actually appreciate it when we’re treated well. 

We’re never going to take your love for granted. If you go out of your way to take us on a romantic date, we’ll give you a genuine thank you. If you buy us tickets to a concert we’ve been dying to see, we’re going to find a way to make it up to you. We’re used to being treated like shit, so when you actually show us the respect we’ve always deserved, we’re going to be eternally thankful that someone like you came along.

We only date when we’re serious about someone.

We’ll admit it. We’ve considered giving up on love completely, of convincing ourselves that we’re destined to live and die alone. After all, we’re at our happiest when we’re single, because we know what a shit storm dating can be. So if we actually agree to date you, then you can bet your ass we’re serious about you. Otherwise, we wouldn’t risk putting our heart in your hands.

We know when to walk away.

We’re not going to stick around if you flirt with all our friends or raise your hand to us after an argument. That means you’re going to have to be the best version of yourself if you want us to stick around. That might make us sound intimidating, but isn’t that what healthy relationships are all about? Wanting to be a better person for your partner?

We know we’re far from perfect. 

We’re not going to expect you to treat us like some superior princess that can do no wrong. We realize we’re human. No matter how hard we try, we’re still going to fuck up. So if you get angry with us, we’re not going to turn the situation around to blame you. We’ll take responsibility for our actions and aim to do better in the future. We’re a work in progress, but that means we’ll be getting wiser by the day.

We’re strong enough to make it through anything.

We’ve made it through BS drama you couldn’t even believe, but we’re still breathing. We might’ve had some minor setbacks and an existential crisis or two, but look at us now. We’re still alive. We’re still doing whatever we can to create a worthwhile future for ourselves. We were strong enough to make it to this point, and we’re strong enough to make it even further. Don’t you want a woman like that around? TC mark

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