It doesn’t matter how funny your jokes are or how stunning your eyes are. No matter how big of a catch you are, you’re still going to get screwed over. Unfortunately, modern-day dating makes even the most beautiful women feel like complete shit.
Everyone acts like dating is such a big deal.
When the holidays roll around, the first thing my aunts and uncles ask me is if I’m seeing someone. I can’t tell them that there’s been a guy I’ve been casually fucking and another that has been stringing me along for months, so I end up telling them I’m still single. I know I shouldn’t care about the opinions of distant relatives that don’t even know my birthday, but I do. It sucks to let them know that countless men have fucked me over, and I have nothing to show for it.
Men can turn into total assholes after getting turned down.
Honestly, most single men deal with the same shit that single women deal with. But some men, the fuckboys of the world, don’t care who they harm. They’ll flirt with me, but when I turn them down, they’ll tell me how ugly I am or they’ll take things one step further and threaten to kill me. It makes me feel like I only exist to be objectified, and it sucks. I deserve respect.
I’m disgusted by how much cheating I’ve seen.
It doesn’t matter how good of a girlfriend I am. I’ve heard horror stories from friends and relatives and strangers on the Internet about how their precious partner betrayed them. If it happened to them, it could happen to me, too. It feels like cheating is becoming a common part of modern dating, and it makes me physically ill. Why would you risk losing the love of your life when you could live happily ever after with them instead? I just don’t understand it.
I feel like I’m in constant competition with other women.
Most of the time, when I see a stranger wearing a cute dress, I compliment her. But some of the time, I’m annoyed that she had the nerve to step out of the house looking better than me. Isn’t that insane? It’s hard to make friends with fellow females when we’re constantly pitted against each other. We’re told we need to compete for boys and for jobs, and it’s fucking ridiculous. We should stick together, not pull apart.
I feel like I’m interchangeable to most men.
Most of the guys I’ve dated in the past didn’t actually need me. They just needed someone–anyone–and they chose to be with me, because I happened to be around. Sure, they also liked how sweet and funny and kinky I was, but a lot of girls share those same traits. That’s why I feel like I could’ve been swapped out for any other attractive lady, and my exes would’ve been just as happy. I don’t believe they truly loved me. I believe they loved having someone around.
I feel like I’m doing something wrong.
It seems like everyone I know falls into one of two categories. Either they’ve already found the love of their life and have been dating them for years or they’re hopelessly single. It feels like there’s no in-between. It feels like I’m destined to be alone. I know I should keep my head up and stay positive, but it’s hard when the dating world has become such a shit show.