You’ve been fucked over enough. Don’t let it happen again. To keep your heart intact, here are a few questions to ask your Tinder match to find out if he’s a fuckboy or a genuinely nice guy.
1. How long was your longest relationship?
Maybe he’s never met the right person. You can’t blame him for being a bachelor. Of course, if he’s never been with a woman for longer than a week, then he’s probably not ready to make a commitment to you.
2. What part of my profile convinced you to talk to me?
If he mentions how hot your ass looks in your profile picture, then he’s only thinking about sleeping with you. But if he actually mentions how funny you were in your bio (in addition to a subtle comment about that ass), then he’s a keeper.
3. What are your friends like?
If he describes them as all as boneheaded athletes without brains, then guess what? He’s probably exactly like them. “You are the company you keep.”
4. Are you looking for something serious or are you just trying to have fun?
He doesn’t have to admit that he’s looking for someone to grow old with. But if he claims he’s just trying to have “fun,” then he’s just looking for sex.
5. Do you believe in labels?
This question can tell you all you need to know about him. If he goes on and on about how monogamy is unnatural, then you don’t want him. No matter what you do, he’s never going to call you his girlfriend.
6. Have you ever had a one-night stand?
It really doesn’t matter if he’s ever had a one-night stand. What matters is how he describes it. Does he brag about it? Or does he act like it’s something he’s not really interested in anymore?
7. How many girls have you slept with?
Again, the answer doesn’t really matter. What matters is how he talks about the girls he’s slept with in the past. Does he act like they were sex objects or like they were real people that he had genuine connections with?
8. What’s your ideal first date?
If he mentions Netflix, then he’s not only lazy, but he’s only looking to fuck. Of course, if he says something cliche about dinner and a movie, then he’s probably only saying what he thinks you want to hear. Either way, he could be a fuckboy.
9. How long do you think two people should wait before having sex?
If he mentions how girls who fuck on the first date are sluts, you don’t need him. If he mentions how girls who tease men are bitches, you don’t need him. Basically, if he degrades women in any way, you don’t need him.
10. Do you mind if I’m against sending nudes?
If he flips out about how you should embrace your body or sends you a dick pic to try to change your mind, don’t even bother to respond to him. If he was a real gentleman, then he’d respect a lady’s right to choose whether or not she wants to send nudes.
11. Have you spoken to a lot of different girls on this app?
Obviously, he has. If he claims that he hasn’t, then you know he isn’t willing to be honest with you. He’s only saying what he thinks he needs to say to get into your pants.
12. Are you close with your mother?
It doesn’t actually matter if he’s close with his family. All that matters is that he talks about them with respect. If he goes off about what a bitch his mother is, even though she hasn’t done anything wrong, then he clearly doesn’t respect women.
13. What’s your go-to pick-up line?
This will let you know a lot about his personality. Different types of men use different types of lines. You can usually figure out what makes him tick once you hear his go-to phrase.
14. Would you consider any of your exes “crazy?”
If he thinks every single girl he’s ever associated with is a crazy bitch, then he’s obviously delusional. Do you really want to date someone who’s going to call you a cunt once you break up in a few months?
15. Do you have a girlfriend?
If he hesitates, if he refuses to answer the question, or if says that it’s complicated, then you should run. He’s probably cheating.
16. Do you mind messaging me throughout the day instead of so late at night?
If he only messages you after midnight to try to convince you to come over, then he’s clearly looking for a hookup. But if he agrees to talk to you during daylight hours, then he might actually be looking for something serious.
17. How do you feel about PDA?
If he admits that he’d never even hold hands with you in public, then it’s a red flag. If he was serious about you, then he’d want everyone to know that you two were an item. If he tries to hide it, then he’s a total fuckboy.
18. Are you friends with any of your exes?
If all of his exes hate him, then there might be a good reason why. He might’ve screwed them over worse than you could even image. You don’t want the same thing to happen to you.
19. Do you drink a lot?
If he’s drunk every single time he messages you, then you don’t want to be with him. Even if he’s not a fuckboy, he’s an alcoholic, and that’s just as bad.
20. Do you want to go out to dinner tonight?
If he turns you down, and asks you to come over to his place instead, then he only wants to have sex. If he was serious about you, then he’d be dying to take you out for a real meal.