4. Laurel Chor
Instead of buying my boyfriend gifts that are just things he can use or would like, I buy things that force him to do things that he’s always wanted to or that he keeps putting off:
For an anniversary, I got him a sketchbook in which I wrote little ideas about what to sketch because he’s got the talent but doesn’t do anything about it.
As a big graduation/anniversary/birthday present, I got him a cheap drum set because he played the drums as a young boy but hasn’t had the chance to play since his own set was given away.
For his birthday, I got him a groupon for capoeira classes because it was yet another thing that he’s always wanted to do.
Such gifts don’t have to be expensive; you can find a friend to teach him a lesson or two in something as a favor, you could make a sketchbook, you could just buy him a “___ for Dummies” book. I think one of the most important roles one has as a significant other is to push the other and support the other to be the best person they can. You don’t want to be the partner who holds the other back–this leaves both parties and the relationship stagnant. You want to help each other evolve and live life to the fullest.
PS. But you do need mindless downtime too. A favorite activity of mine with my boyfriend is to watch/rewatch a good TV series from start to finish. It takes a while to complete and is always a little go-to treat we have. When we’re apart, we Skype in the sessions by timing the start of the TV shows on our respective computers, and we can still see each other thanks to Skype’s feature that automatically minimizes the chat window in the corner of your screen.