19 Women Who Have Been In A Threeway Explain What It Felt Like Being The Third Wheel

13. Be certain if everyone is emotionally capable

I have a bunch of times. It just depends on the couple really. If there is not much in the way of boundaries then it’s pretty straight forward and very fun. You’re all there to enjoy your own and each others bodies. If there is a lot of restrictions then you may end up feeling like a bit of a playtoy for them where it’s more about them and their experience than yours. It’s still fun and exciting, but just a little more limited. In that sort of situation if you enjoy woman then you will be suited to spending more time on her than him.

There is also the possibility that they are not emotionally capable of this, but not even realise it. Perhaps ask them if they have done it before.

14. Potential friendship ruiner

It was interesting. They ended up being freaky enough on their own that they should have just told me they were into exhibitionism and not a “unicorn”. She and I sort of drifted apart for a little bit (maybe two or three months), but we had a very strong friendship before this, and definitely have a giggle or two about it every now and then. She is the beginning and end of kind hearted people, and I knew I wouldn’t lose her over it (in fact, she ditched the guy several months later and apologized to me for how he behaved).

15. This is very well thought out

In my opinion I think most guys who are in a relationship use the idea of a threesome to get away with fucking a new girl. Men like new things it excites them. They may love their girlfriend and be attracted to her but when he gets the chance to fuck a new attractive girl, he’s going to end up falling for her and craving her more than his girlfriend that he may have been with for a year or more. Most men probably won’t say anything though and stay with their girlfriend.

I also see alot of situations where the guy wants to have a MFF threesome. But is not ok at all with a MMF with their girlfriend. Why? Because they like the idea of being fucked by another girl but not their girl being fucked by another guy. And that’s selfish. It proves that you want the MFF for selfish reasons and not a new experience for the couple like many men claim. I know not all men who are in relationships and want a MFF are like this, but I think the majority are.

I think threesomes while in a relationship while you have been only monogamous before is a bad idea. Like someone else said, threesomes with people who aren’t in a relationship is probably the best idea. There are too many emotional risks if you do it while in a relationship. The woman can say she’s fine, but when you actually see the guy you love really enjoying fucking another girl, it can be absolutely heartbreaking.

16. A long discussion is necessary

I much prefer being in the couple than being a third. The threesome I was in as the third was a long-term relationship situation (three-way couple) but the primary couple had certain exclusions and rules (and didn’t do the best communicating their issues to me). Every other threesome I’ve done has been with friends or girls that I was seeing apart from my SO with my SO and I as the couple. They’ve been lovely, and haven’t made anything awkward/difficult afterwards.

My best advice to you: before you get down and dirty, have a long discussion about everyone’s limits and comfort levels. How much are the couple OK with you doing with each person? How much do you expect out of it vs what they are interested in? Are you allowed to see one or the other of this couple later one on one? Misunderstandings of these nature are the kind of things that make the biggest problems down the line. Open communication is seriously important.


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