ESFJs showed a strong preference for quality time as their love language, closely followed by words of affirmation and acts of service.
As the caregivers of the MBTI, these results certainly fit with this type’s loving nature. They express their love by lending their time to care for others. As a dominant extroverted feeling type, it also fits that they enjoy giving and receiving verbal affirmations of their love.
To love an ESFJ, set aside time specifically to spend with them. Learn about the activities they enjoy and offer to participate in them alongside them – they’ll appreciate your efforts to harmonize with their lifestyle. Additionally, don’t back down from telling them how much you love them! This type adores hearing kind, appreciative words from the people they’ve been investing their time and care in. Let them know how much they mean to you on a regular basis. Last but not least, remember that your ESFJ is not a superman or woman! Though they are more than capable of organizing the tasks and errands they need to get done, they appreciate you stepping in to help every once in a while – it shows that you value their time and want to relieve them of some of their duties.
To receive love from an ESFJ, introduce them to the activities you love and invite them to participate! They want to be a part of your life just as much as you’re a part of theirs. Also, get comfortable hearing ‘I love you’ on a regular basis from them – this type loves letting their close ones know that they’re appreciated. Last but not least, let the ESFJ help you out with the occasional chore or errand – they want to make your life easier and these kind-hearted gestures of practical help are their way of doing just that.