It’s rare to find someone that fits you like your favorite sweater or a pair of thick wool socks in the winter. These people only come into our lives every so often, and if you’re one of the lucky ones, they stay. But unfortunately, if you’re anything like me, time isn’t always the kindest to you.
Timing can make or break a relationship. And I’m not talking just normal making time for each other; I’m talking that gut-wrenching, heart-stopping matter of time slapping you in the face. The kind that you know is coming eventually, but you don’t want to think that it’s coming anytime soon. Sometimes it’s the timing of one of you telling the truth about a secret you’ve been keeping; or your lives are just going in two completely different directions, on different sides of the country; or maybe you just aren’t ready to love or be loved in a long-term sense.
Timing breaks more hearts than anything else. Time also heals more hearts than “getting under someone new” (believe me, worst possible way to get over someone you claim you loved). In my case, timing seemed perfect.
Then all of a sudden it wasn’t. Life got in the way. Goals and dreams and future careers became constant worries to me in the weeks leading up to my sudden breakup. You think of all the ways that you can make your different lives work together, and in all honesty it doesn’t make sense, but you can’t let go. Because how can you? You love him! And he loves you, right? I’m sorry to say that sometimes, love just isn’t enough. I truly wish it was, but that’s not always the case.
Timing doesn’t care about love, timing cares about teaching you a lesson before you’ve even got the syllabus for the course. The course has no required textbook to help you along the way, you take it on blindly and hope that you come out on the other side victorious.
But I am here to tell you that even if you don’t come out victorious, you will still come out in one piece. Some of those pieces may be a little cracked and fragile, but you will be whole. You’ll hurt and feel like the world and love and time are all against you and will never be on your side again, but that isn’t true. You’ll heal, and you’ll fall in love again with the hopes that time will be on your side.
Put on some Justin Bieber or Taylor Swift, channel some positive energy, and occupy your time with friends and work and hobbies that make you happy. Your happiness depends on what you can give yourself, no what someone else can give to you. And for the love of ice cream, do not stalk his social media—it will only make you crazier with wondering what he’s doing without you.