How I Met My Boyfriend

Relationships don’t happen instantly. You might know how you feel about someone right away, but often, there’s a slow progression toward each other — a fleeting meeting, a budding friendship, a frightened trepidation, a first kiss. For Valentine’s Day, two of our contributors decided to reflect on their relationship together and write about the night they met, not showing each other their accounts until we publish them here on TC. Because they’re a couple of romantic jerks like that. Below, Gaby’s story.

The night I met you, I was wrong about love.

I thought love was hard and tiring. I thought it left dark circles under your eyes and miserable bruises inside and out. I thought for certain that love wasn’t worth it.

The first time I saw you, you were on stage, hosting a comedy open mic at a bar near Boston called Sally O’Brien’s. I was a college senior who’d been doing stand up for four months. I’d heard your mic was “friendly” and the word had struck me. When you’re just starting out in comedy, “friendly” is not how you’d describe any open mic.

I stood alone in the back. You weren’t doing material; just riffing and talking to the small crowd. There was a spotlight on you because of the stage lighting, but I would have imagined one anyway.

You were brilliant — the sharpest person I’d ever seen; So natural and funny and perfect, it was like watching who I wanted to be. As a new comedian, my hands still shook on the microphone, I felt like vomiting before every show and I hardly deviated from my tightly-written five minutes. And there you were, looking like you were born on stage. Your face was so open, your humor so quick, your laugh so genuine. You were happiness personified. A human cupcake.

One night, in the beginning of our relationship, I cried because I found out that you’d lived a few streets away from me while I’d dated my abusive ex. Do you remember that?

It was because I kept thinking I’d wasted so much time being sadness personified and trying to make that terrible relationship work, and there you’d been, the whole time, so close to me. I didn’t need you and I wasn’t looking for you, but when you finally arrived — when I saw you? It was like I should have known all along.

‘If I’d only looked harder,’ I said, ‘maybe I would have found you sooner.’

Maybe I wouldn’t have been ready.

I thought about myself back then and it seemed ridiculous that I had no idea we’d ever be together; I’d cared about all the wrong things when it came to love. I wanted to go back in time and drag my younger self over to your house and say, “This is what love is. Stop being stupid.”

That night at Sally O’s, you gave me your business card and said to e-mail you. I overheard you telling someone that you needed to get home to cook for your girlfriend. I thought, “He’s so wonderful. He’ll probably marry that girl.”

The night we met, I thought about the faceless girlfriend who deserved someone like you. I went home to my lonely apartment, drank red wine, and wrote some of my tedious senior thesis.

I thought I’d go back to that open mic next week. I went to sleep thinking you were nice and smart and most of all: too good for me. TC mark

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  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=612928768 Samie Rose

    UGH YOU’RE BOTH SO CUTE IT HURTS.

  • http://twitter.com/Amandemic Amandemic

    Some of the lines in this just kill me. So cute!

  • Michaelwg

    Aww..Now I want “A human cupcake”
    I didn’t before. Now I do. Damn.

  • http://www.facebook.com/reeves.tash Natasha Reeves

    “…and there you’d been, the whole time, so close to me. I didn’t need you and I wasn’t looking for you, but when you finally arrived — when I saw you? It was like I should have known all along.”
    Yep. That’s real.

  • ElleDee

    Okay. I read his first and loved it; I read yours next and cried. Thanks for doing these, they are great <3 …a bloohoohoo

  • Seriously

    I totally ship Josh and Gaby. 

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Renata-Blau/1171550171 Renata Blau

    Human cupcake… wonderful!

  • tiffanym

    I wish i wrote this D: this hits so close to home

  • Marthabuca

    Human Cupcake, brilliant! I absolutely love this and can relate to some parts. I read his first and thought it was great, then I read yours and its just wonderful. What a cute couple, please never break up. Thanks!

  • Mom

    Ahhhhh! Always go back to that feeling. I want that picture plz.

  • Guest

    so it IS possible to date someone who you think is far too good for you… that gives me hope!

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    Reblogged this on The World Without Us.

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