It has come to my attention that Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. Whether you are single, in a relationship, or married, one thing that everyone has in common is that we love to love. Why? Well, other than the fact that we are human and yearn for fulfillment and a best friend, we also have been raised to know that it is the norm in our society. Without love, our world would be a very different place. Perhaps, that is why the world is changing into an environment where war is a commonality and where the nightly news consists mostly of tragic stories and events. If everyone took the time to love a little more and give more than they receive, things would look up. Randy Pausch once said, “When we’re connected to others, we become better people.” Sure there are other things that make people happy, but feeling loved by family, friends, or your significant other tops it all. You could be wealthy, have everything you ever wanted but still be unsatisfied because at the end of the day, what really matters is whom you’re sharing your life with. If you are unable to say, “I love you” to anyone in your life, then my friend, you’re missing out.
Psychological studies have found that those who have the least tend to give the most. There are several explanations as to why, but the number one reason is because those who have less tend to show greater feelings of compassion towards others. This goes to show that material possessions do not play a major role in obtaining happiness in life and that well-being, peace of mind, and contentment come from giving back to your community and to the ones you hold near and dear to your heart. One of the best feelings is when you can hear a smile in someone’s voice and you know it is because of something nice you had said or done. This is exactly how the giver gets. What you get in return of giving is not something (although sometimes it could be) but rather the feeling of being overjoyed to see someone you love genuinely happy. Knowing that you brightened that person’s day brings delight into not only theirs but your life as well.
Real connections with people you love never go away. No matter the circumstance, time, or distance, you know in your heart that a piece of them will always be with you. This small recollection makes life exciting and fun to live in and eager for people to invest time into those they love. There will be chapters of your life that you will not want to look back on but you should remember that what got you through the tough times were friends, family, lovers, etc. who loved and cared for you enough to pull you through. Now, you might see how love makes the world go round because what goes around does come back around. For it is the people who make you laugh a bit harder and smile a bit brighter that make life a little bit better. So, no matter your relationship status this upcoming Valentine’s Day, remember you ultimately choose your happiness and that the giver truly does get.