If you want to attempt something risqué in the bedroom but aren’t ready for whips and chains just yet, your best bet is to take a chance on butt plugs. They are perfect for beginners, regardless of your gender or sexual orientation.
Even though most people associate butt plugs with prepping for anal sex, you can wear one while masturbating, while your person is performing oral on you, or while you’re having P-in-V sex.
If you’re extra daring, you could even insert your butt plug before going to dinner and wear it while in public. It will be your sexy little secret. You can walk around with them and even dance with them — and no one will notice.
There is no possibility of losing it, because they come in teardrop shapes with one end much bigger than the other to keep it from getting stuck inside of your body. As long as you use enough lubricant on the plug, it should easily slide in and out without causing you any discomfort.
If you’re still worried, make sure to purchase one made of silicone because you can sanitize it easily after use and you can feel confident the material won’t break while inside of you.
Butt plugs also come in glass, stainless steel, and crystal. However, if you’re going to venture outside the saftey of silicone, make sure the company you purchase from is reputable since those materials are less flexible and more susceptible to breaking.
If you’re still on the fence, your other fear might be how much you can handle during your first time. Don’t freak out. There are different sizes so you can start with whichever one you feel comfortable with and work your way up when you decide you’re ready. Some stores even come with full sets that contain at least three different plugs in increasing sizes so you’re always ready to take the next step.
Most butt plugs look exactly the same so browsing shouldn’t take you too long, but there are some elaborate ones out there if you’re feeling fancy. There are butt plugs with ‘princess’ jewels on the ends so you can sparkle with green, blue, pink, or whatever color matches your underwear. There are also fuzzy versions in rainbow colors.
Or if you consider yourself a furry, you can purchase butt plugs with tails attached to the end. There are wolf tails, fox tails, cat tails — any kind of tail you desire.
Even if you’d rather stick with the basics, butt plugs are a good investment for your sex life. They will spice things up. They will give you a different sensation than the vanilla one you’re used to experiencing.
Most people mistakingly think an object (or penis) going in and out is what creates pleasure, but it’s the sensation of fulness inside of your body. When that butt plug hits your erogenous zones, you will feel a sensation as good as sex.
If you come to the realization that you like being touched from behind, butt plugs will free your hands so you can use them to stroke other parts of your body.
On the other hand, if you’re not a fan of the sensation, you can let your partner use butt plugs instead. It might not turn you on to wear them yourself, but it might turn you on to see your person wearing them.
Remember: It doesn’t matter if you’re a man or a woman, or if you like men or women, because anyone can get enjoyment out of this toy. It’s meant for anyone and everyone.
Once you get used to wearing butt plugs, the excitement might die down a little. That’s perfectly fine, because once that happens you can take things up a notch by buying vibrating butt plugs. It will take your pleasure to a whole new level for a second time.