What Healing Actually Means

Healing means confronting your own issues so you can fix them. We all have silent battles, those that we refuse to talk to others about or even admit them to ourselves. Maybe because we don’t want to face the reality that we are broken. Maybe you got hurt before and someone left you devastated. Maybe you feel insecure about yourself and the relationship that you’re in. Maybe you don’t see yourself worthy enough. Maybe you are pretending to be strong but the truth is you are struggling inside and you can’t find the strength to fix what’s been broken for a long time. Well, let me tell you this. You can never heal from your own wounds if you won’t acknowledge that you have issues to work on. Healing requires addressing what’s wrong to make things right. 

Healing means accepting who you are — flaws and all. Stop beating yourself up for not being able to accomplish things at a certain point. Stop beating yourself up when things don’t go as you planned. Stop beating yourself up for not being perfect. You’re human. You make mistakes. You stumble. You’re human and you can never be perfect no matter how you try to be. You’re flawed, but who isn’t? You can never heal if you can’t accept who you really are. Healing requires self-love and self-acceptance. 

Healing means being scared but doing it anyway. You might have been traumatized by a certain thing and it has made you box yourself because you think that way nobody could harm you. You found your safety in there. But that doesn’t necessarily mean you are healed. You have to let go of the fear that the past is going to repeat itself. Of course, you can never see what happens ahead. But learning how to deal with fear and being able to face it with a brave heart will eventually take you to a place of healing. Because healing requires you putting yourself out there even if it scares you.

Healing means letting go of pain. You might have your heart broken a million times and you find it hard to trust anyone or even let anyone in. You might have always found yourself giving too much, loving too much, and that people took advantage of your kind heart. But I am here to tell you, they all just played a part in your life to make you stronger and wiser. And their role is over. What happened in the past shouldn’t interfere with your future. Let go of what hurt you. Because if you keep holding on to the pain of your past, you are never going to be truly happy. You are never going to heal from what you won’t even let go of. 

Healing means forgiving those who hurt you including yourself. You might have done stupid things when you were young, or you might even have resentment toward yourself, your friends, your parents, or even to your past relationships. But if you want to heal, you have to forgive those who wounded you. You have to forgive them not because they deserve it. But because you want to be healed and free yourself from people and things that once broke you. Forgive them and forgive yourself, too. 

Healing means allowing yourself to love again. It means letting yourself trust again. It means allowing yourself to be vulnerable to others and believing that not everyone will hurt you. And if someone does, it only means you understand that life comes with challenges not to break you again, but to teach you lessons and make you an even stronger human being. 

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