Setting boundaries is not a bad thing. It actually is the healthiest that you could ever do for yourself. It is somewhat similar to self-respect. Setting boundaries is one thing you can do to practice self-love and to build self-esteem.
It’s your license to say NO to people when you don’t feel right about saying YES. It’s a reminder that you don’t always please people or let them do whatever they want, even if you’re not comfortable or happy about it.
Setting boundaries means you are able to let people know what you really want and what you don’t. It means setting a standard for yourself and subtly communicating them to others so they know how you want to be treated. It means you are not going to tolerate those who disrespect you or those who walk all over you.
Setting boundaries for yourself will eliminate those who just want to benefit from your kindness and generosity. It will help you know those who are there because they truly want to be in your life and those who are there only because it’s convenient for them.
Setting boundaries won’t mean that you think yourself as perfect. It just means that you respect yourself enough to do what will make you healthy and happy in both emotional and mental states. It’s not letting anyone drain you or affect you in a negative way because of their behavior or mistreatment of you.
Setting boundaries is like protecting yourself. It’s creating a healthy environment and getting rid of toxicity from people, places, and situations. It’s a reflection of how you see yourself and how you give value to your being. It says a lot about your character.
Setting boundaries creates a healthy living space for yourself. It gives you the courage to walk away from those who aren’t serving you and from those who mishandle you. So it shouldn’t make you feel guilty. It shouldn’t make you feel like it’s a bad thing whenever someone gets upset because they crossed a line.
Stop feeling bad about disappointing people because you have boundaries. Stop being mindful of those who aren’t serving you. Remember, you’re allowed to set boundaries simply because you’re allowed to be happy.