Every so often you find yourself feeling down. You think, “Ugh, my life sucks” or “Could anything literally be worse than what I’m going through right now?” This isn’t a sign of weakness; it’s a sign of strength. No matter how it may feel, know that in your worst moments lies the potential for growth. We can’t grow as human beings if our lives are constantly amazing and our circumstances are always in our favor. Some “grow” more than others and some people grow but never reach the point of helplessness and break down.
We are all on our own journeys and no one’s journey is more special or any more worthwhile than the next person’s. Know that if you break down it does not mean that you’re weak or that you’re not worthy. It means you’re on your way to success, and this is just a roadblock you have to get over on the way there. Be grateful for what you have and who you are in this moment.
The most successful people you know have gone through major roadblocks at some point in their lives and they have gotten through them, and emerged as new people at the end of it. You too can emerge as a new person. You’ll still be yourself at the end of this, only with newfound self-respect and self-confidence in the person that you are. Unfortunately, this moment comes only when we truly accept ourselves: a difficult feat to accomplish for each and everyone on this earth.
Instead of worrying and dwelling on mistakes you have made in the past, and breaking down over people and circumstances that were out of control, worry about the present moment. Worry about the things you can do to change the path your life is taking, if you’re not happy with where it’s going. Yes, worry about yourself.
I spent so long worrying about what other people were thinking until I realized that they’re not thinking about me as much as I think they are. You have to realize that you’re the protagonist in your own life, but so is everyone else in their own lives. We place too much emphasis on self-projection and image when we should place all the emphasis on self-esteem and how we feel about ourselves.
The journey to self-discovery is a long one; one that most people haven’t even begun to encounter yet. If you’re reading this article, it means that you’ve encountered struggle and pain in your life and you’ve started to think about healing and self-discovery. You’re a step ahead of everyone who hasn’t. It’s okay to feel lost, it’s okay to feel stuck, and it’s okay to feel helpless.
Think of your life as a timeline of events. The point of breakdown is the trigger that starts your journey to self-discovery. Without pain we can never experience true happiness, and vice versa. There’s no right or wrong; no set way to live your life. There’s only a now, and we all have to make the best of it, no matter how difficult it seems.