7 Reasons Why An Almost Boyfriend Isn’t Actually The Worst Thing Ever

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Is it me or have we all lost the ability to commit? It seems like that’s everyone’s story nowadays. You meet someone and things are going well, but there’s always that little voice inside your head telling you that maybe you’re just not ready. Relationships are hard and your life changes substantially when you dive into one, so it’s not always a bad thing to rethink committing to a relationship. For a single chick it can be hard to convince friends and family that having an almost boyfriend is actually a good thing, but who cares what others think about your romantic life? If you’re on the fence about keeping the relationship with your almost boyfriend going, here’s a list that could change your mind.


You’re not tied down to one person. You’re free to go out, date, and hookup with whomever you want. You’re bound to no one but you, which makes you free to follow your own wants and desires.

No Excuses

You don’t want to go out with your almost boyfriend on any given night? You don’t have to. You don’t even have to give him an excuse. You can go about your life and it’s as easy-peasy as that. This is a definite perk if you’re not into giving anyone any explanations.

Zero Obligation

You don’t always have to be there for that person. You don’t have to take on any of their burdens and you don’t have to be at their beck and call. You’re not obligated to do more than you’re willing to.

No Drama

He can’t get jealous, he can’t get mad at you for not responding to his texts, he can’t demand that you see him, and he can’t bring you any drama that you’re not willing to deal with.


You still have time for your friends, you can travel with or without him, you can do anything your heart desires at whatever time. You don’t have to say no to other plans and offers to check in with him first.

Minimal Effort

You’re not obliged to try very hard when someone is just an “almost” for you. You can get away with putting out the bare minimum. If you want to give this person your all, you can, but it’s nice to have the option of not having to.


You’re in control of who, what, where, when, why and how you go about your love life. You set the rules and whoever wants to be in your life must abide by them. TC mark

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