To the Girl who Thinks She Will Never Love Again

“Sometimes I think I have felt everything I’m ever gonna feel. And from here on out, I’m not gonna feel anything new. Just lesser versions of what I’ve already felt.” – Her (2013)

To the girl who thinks she won’t love again, there’s a possibility that you won’t. And that’s okay.

The love of your life married the love of his, and it wasn’t you.

Friends try to tell you that things fall apart so that better things can fall into place. They say that it wasn’t meant to be. The usual it’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all and what’s coming is better than what has passed.

And of course the ultimate break up advice – you had to go through the heartache for you to grow. So that when the right person comes along, (presumably right after this Adele-of-all-heartaches) you will be ready and you’ll understand why it didn’t work out with anyone else.

They’ll tell you love is just round the corner. You will love again. And you’ll find someone who will make all the heartaches worth it.

I say bull.

Your friends don’t know any better. No one does. They probably said it with such confidence and positivity that for a short moment you almost believed them. Because you desperately want to believe that you will love again.

But life isn’t designed that way. Maybe the best has indeed passed. Maybe you won’t find anything better than him and that’s okay too. Life really doesn’t give you challenges just to make you feel better about it at the end of the journey, giving you endless experiences and relationships that’s better than the one before.

The next guy is not going to miraculously sweep you off your feet. It is possible that you’ll never feel as happy as the day you marked on your calendar as the best day of your life – you know, the one when it was just you and him, on the bench, watching the sun rise and realizing that nothing could be more beautiful than this moment right here.

So to the girl who thinks she will never love again, I won’t tell you words to make you feel better. I won’t quote the instagram-worthy phrases that you’ve already heard (and possibly memorized) from friends and countless Thought Catalog articles.

Instead, I want to tell you that you might just be right. There’s a possibility that you won’t love again after this. Not in the way you’ve loved before and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.

I’m here to tell you that you’re one of the lucky ones after all, to have felt that kind of love that some people search for all their lives and may never find.

I’m sure it was all worth it, even if you aren’t able to feel anything new and everything you feel from here on are just lesser versions of what you’ve already felt with him.

And I’m sure you’ll do it all over again with him, even if it means you’ll never love again.

Because loving him, is enough for you. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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