Desiring An Old-Fashioned Love In A Modern World

Hernan Sanchez
Hernan Sanchez

Every young girl dreams of a fairy-tale love, a dream that keeps her heart open to love into her early adult years. Love appears to be this beautiful bond between two people, and is portrayed as a simple moment of eye contact between two people.

As a child, every little girl hopes to be a princess rescued by her prince. Every book and movie reinforces this idealized version of love. This leads me to wonder, does love exist? Or should I get lost in a book to avoid disappointment?

Every time I hear a story of how a young boy gave his varsity jacket to the girl he wanted to date, or how a man pursued a woman with his whole heart, I wonder why that love no longer exists. This kind of love existed once, and men picked up their ladies for the date, and walked them back to their front door. No one expected to be invited in after the date, and even a kiss goodbye was not promised. That is the kind of love I am actively searching for…but it is 2017.

Today, most people are so absorbed in their phones, that they do not hear half the story you have told on the date. While getting drinks, he is probably taking a business call. In a world of hook-ups and “I’m not into labels”, what is a girl who believes strongly in traditional romance to do?

How is a girl who gets lost in books and the world surrounding her going to find love in a hook up culture of meaningless sex? I cannot compromise myself, or my morals, because that will land me in an unhappy marriage, and a potential divorce.

I refuse to budge on what I want, because I know exactly what I deserve. I should wait for the man who puts down his phone to spend time with me. I should wait for the man who takes nature hikes with me, get lost on new adventures with me, and knows all of my quirks better than I know them.

While I am waiting, I am going to have the time of my life with an open heart. I am going to love each and every person I come to know. I am not sitting around waiting for 2017 to become 1950 again, but I am hoping for my old-fashioned love in the modern world. Thought Catalog Logo Mark


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