6 Lessons I Learned Because You Broke My Heart

Tony Ciampa

1. There is always something to be grateful for. There is always a silver lining.

You taught me that even at my lowest point, I have enough hustle in me to dig myself out. What a beautiful thing to show a person. You could have, and tried to, take everything from me which obviously was extremely painful. However, through this I learned that the most valuable things I have can’t be touched by anyone but me. Because you broke my heart, I learned how to be so grateful for me.

2. If anyone uses the word “technically” to justify treating you like crap, you should not-so-technically cut them out … like right now.

Emotions don’t come with technicalities. Good people own up when they’ve wronged someone else. Good people work on self-improvement. Good people apologize with the intention of healing, not to make themselves look good. Jerks will try to sidestep with technicalities. Let them sidestep right the hell out of your life path, you don’t need that crap. Because you broke my heart, I learned to value actions not words.

3. No one can tell me anything about myself.

I let you convince me so many untrue terrible things about myself. Too sensitive, too naïve, not smart enough, too soft for the real world. Thankfully, I said goodbye to that nonsense when I said goodbye to you. But thanks to you, I’ll be damned if I let someone else make me feel like that again. You helped me realize I was worth so much more than I was willing to settle for. Because you broke my heart, everything about me got so much more expensive.

4. The ones who know exactly what to say are the ones you should be wary of.

You made me realize how much I love goofy, awkward, and unplanned. I was so drawn to how charismatic you were and how good you were at saying all the right things. Because you broke my heart, I learned that the only time I should fall in love with words is when they are backed by action.

5. I can still wish for you to find happiness.

I have always prided myself on giving people multiple chances. I think that can be attributed to an artist-attitude. A masterpiece never feels complete, and neither do any of my relationships. But with you, I can finally look at what’s been created and feel fully at peace knowing that it’s done. Good intentioned or not, you helped add to my life without leaving me jaded. Because you broke my heart, I know that it still beats just the same.

6. I am a total badass.

I can’t imagine how it must feel to sit there knowing full well that I delivered on every promise we made together. I am a woman of her word and no one will ever change that about me. I conquered everything we set out to do together, but I did it by myself. I did it all without you. I did it all for myself. And damn, if that’s not the most romantic thing I’ve ever experienced, I don’t know what is.

Because you broke my heart, I fully realize the unstoppable power of my mind. TC mark

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