
âIâm scared. I donât know if Iâll ever be able to trust again.â
She knows she wants to; sheâs just completely frightened by the possibility that sheâll get hurt again, that sheâs going to end up fighting alone. She knows deep inside she wants to risk being vulnerable and give in to what her heart is telling her to do. Little does she know that sheâs somehow allowing her memories from the past manipulate the way sheâs living her life; that sheâs unknowingly becoming a prisoner of something that was never meant to last.
Learning how to get back out there is insanely difficult, almost impossible. She wonders if sheâll ever be able to find a love that is greater, stronger, worth more than the last. Every time she even thinks about it, her body weakens, sheâll start feeling a surge of anxiety crawling up, allowing her heart and mind to become restless.
1. Donât fall in love with a girl whoâs afraid to trust again if you have a problem with being patient.
Itâs going to take her a lot of courage to get back up and convince herself
that itâs okay to love again as well as believe that what you have is real. Understand that picking up the broken pieces has become a habit of hers; that she will never get used to giving everything she has and gaining absolutely nothing from it.
2. Donât give up on her just yet.
Know that sheâs trying her best to become a better version of herself. Appreciate the effort sheâs exerting to tidy up the mess. Itâll be worth it seeing her grow.
3. Donât leave her thinking sheâll never be good enough.
Thatâs a lie sheâll end up considering truthful. Sheâs human, it is normal to commit mistakes. Putting all the blame on her doesnât even come close to showing her you care.
4. Donât make her feel like sheâs competing for your time and attention.
Itâs highly important to build trust; make her feel safe and comfortable in your presence. Remind her sheâs the only girl you want; that youâre choosing her because you love her. She needs constant assurance.
5. Donât say things you donât mean.
Sheâs had enough heartbreaks to last a lifetime and you making her hold on to empty promises might leave her heart shattered for the rest of
her life. Nobody wants to hang on to false hope.
6. Donât expect too much from her.
Sheâs in the process of finding herself for she has lost a part of her trying to love someone too much. Please give her time. Keep in mind that your efforts wonât always fix everything for her in a blink of an eye. Trying to make her
happy doesnât give you the license to demand something from her in return.
7. Donât pursue her if youâre unhappy and incomplete.
She canât complete you. Work on yourself before getting into a relationship because you simple cannot give what you do not have. As the saying goes, âDonât depend on other people as the source of your happiness or for approval.â (J. Meyer)
If you really love her, help her heal and realize that true love drives out fear.
Prove that love is both a verb and a choice youâre willing to make every single day. Many people know how to feel, but have no idea how to love. People often get confused by this which is why they get hurt easily. Itâs hard for them to conclude that they took a wrong turn and committed a mistake which leads them to finding happiness in all the wrong places. They donât allow themselves to grow and learn from their brokenness. They spend most of their time trying to find the perfect person, but then reality leaves them hopelessly believing that âperfectâ doesnât exist in this lifetime.
If youâre having a tough time trying to accept things, itâs okay. Thatâs normal. Allow yourself to feel, but donât embrace the pain too much, you might end up getting attached to it. Cry if you feel the need to. Moving on is never about forgetting, nope. thatâs not how it works. Itâs about finding the strength to forgive not only the person, but more importantly yourself; live without holding grudges. Remind yourself that itâs not too late to start over.
Go ahead, enable yourself to break free from chains that hold you down!