5. It’s Not The Fat That Bothers Me. It’s His Mindset.

He was on a diet when I met him, and slowly just gained back what he lost. His family is all over weight, and he has it programmed in his head to eat a certain way. It’s been years of me trying to get him to care. It’s not the fat that bothers me. It’s his mind set. Heart disease has taken every male on his fathers side. He just doesn’t get it. I make him healthy lunches, and end up finding them stacked in his trunk, and then bank statements of take out while he’s at work. I make great meals for dinner, he either complains, but eats it, or buys pizza on the way home. I’m about to give up to be honest.

6. Changes Were Made

Never mentioned it, cooked/bought good healthy food, discouraged us from eating out so much, took him on walks with me, when he asks me to give him privacy to do push-ups and crunches I politely leave the room and don’t make a big deal of it, while it made him less attractive to me I never mentioned it (he was still attractive). That was two years ago and now he is no longer overweight.

7. I’d Probably Be Lazy Too

My SO started gaining weight, I totally understand why she has though.

She had a kid (always makes you gain a few extra pounds), we started going to the gym together and she lost the weight and actually started getting slimmer (she wasn’t slim but not fat).

A couple of years later her dad died, he was the only person we knew who would look after the kids while we went to the gym so we couldn’t go anymore. She started snacking all the time when I was at work and drinking a lot more pop. She gained more weight and I told her I was concerned with the way she was snacking and eating at night time. She’s made the effort to try and lose weight but she spends her time alone at home with our 3 year old, she has no time during the day to exercise because he’s so demanding. When I get home I’m pooped, I travel 3 hours a day and work 8 1/2 hours so I don’t have much motivation to exercise when I get in, that and I’m naturally slim and have never really had the urge to snack so I don’t really gain weight.

It’s hard sometimes because despite how much I love her I am finding I’m less attracted to her because she’s gaining weight. I also think that she’s not as busy as she says she is because she manages to sit through hundreds of hours of shows on her iPad every week but I can’t say anything about that because I’d probably be lazy too if I wasn’t at work all day.