5 Things You Need To Know About The Girl Who’s Hard To Handle

They’ve told me that they put in the calls, they’ve put in the money, that I’ve just turned around and said thank you, what else. They tell me I get caught up in my work, I’ve put them in the backseat. But please know I’m passionate about you I’ll love you for what you offer. While I know that I can be hard at times, I want to try to remember how my difficulties with my ability to focus on my relationships make me the woman that you will want to love. As a man who loves a woman who can be hard to handle I want you to know these five things.

1. When I get self-conscious about my skills as a girlfriend I dive further into my work.

I’ve been told that I can forget about the rules of being a good girlfriend. I don’t call back right away. I don’t talk to you all day. I do care about you. When I’m with you I want to really spend time with you. I don’t want to spend all day half working half talking to you and then not make it home so that we can actually spend time together ;)

2. I don’t want to be a workaholic.

I am not a workaholic. My time is committed to my passions – family, friends, creativity, and my job. These all matter to me. I have thought about these balances a lot and having them in my life will matter to my happiness and sense of balance. I love you but you can’t be the only thing or the only person I talk to in my life. You will not want to be around me in 10 even 5 years if I let this happen.

3. Sometimes I think I want to prove I’m not a trophy wife.

20 years I was on this earth before I was smacked across my sweet cheek with the idea, “you are strong, you can do and make what you want, you can dream.” Before then I had been obedient, learning, listening. Once I opened my wings to this possibility it is my motivation my dream to make a life for me and to make this all worth my time. I’m still proving to myself that I have what it takes to do what I want. I want to be your partner, not your dependent. Maybe this is my pride getting in the way, but I need to remember to keep myself even in my love for you.

4. Please love my spirit and I will love coming home to you.

I hope what you love about me is how my eyes light up when I talk about the things that I love – dancing, movies, music, books, sports, my friends, you, brownies. I love you for your passions and the way you smile when you are happy and when you get serious when you think about your work. I love that about you and I hope you love that about me. Love the spirit in me and I will love the spirit in you.

5. You can trust I will not run off and cheat on you

When I say I will stay I stay. I want to believe the good in people and when I see that in you I think I just know it. Maybe I put too much faith in people off of gut intuitions? But once I’ve made up my mind that I like you, you can’t expect me to go running off with some other man. I picked you because of the way you make me feel. Other things will take my time – family, friends, hobbies, work, but not other men, not someone to replace you. This you can believe. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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