They’ve told me that they put in the calls, they’ve put in the money, that I’ve just turned around and said thank you, what else. They tell me I get caught up in my work, I’ve put them in the backseat. But please know I’m passionate about you I’ll love you for what you offer. While I know that I can be hard at times, I want to try to remember how my difficulties with my ability to focus on my relationships make me the woman that you will want to love. As a man who loves a woman who can be hard to handle I want you to know these five things.
1. When I get self-conscious about my skills as a girlfriend I dive further into my work.
I’ve been told that I can forget about the rules of being a good girlfriend. I don’t call back right away. I don’t talk to you all day. I do care about you. When I’m with you I want to really spend time with you. I don’t want to spend all day half working half talking to you and then not make it home so that we can actually spend time together ;)
2. I don’t want to be a workaholic.
I am not a workaholic. My time is committed to my passions – family, friends, creativity, and my job. These all matter to me. I have thought about these balances a lot and having them in my life will matter to my happiness and sense of balance. I love you but you can’t be the only thing or the only person I talk to in my life. You will not want to be around me in 10 even 5 years if I let this happen.
3. Sometimes I think I want to prove I’m not a trophy wife.
20 years I was on this earth before I was smacked across my sweet cheek with the idea, “you are strong, you can do and make what you want, you can dream.” Before then I had been obedient, learning, listening. Once I opened my wings to this possibility it is my motivation my dream to make a life for me and to make this all worth my time. I’m still proving to myself that I have what it takes to do what I want. I want to be your partner, not your dependent. Maybe this is my pride getting in the way, but I need to remember to keep myself even in my love for you.
4. Please love my spirit and I will love coming home to you.
I hope what you love about me is how my eyes light up when I talk about the things that I love – dancing, movies, music, books, sports, my friends, you, brownies. I love you for your passions and the way you smile when you are happy and when you get serious when you think about your work. I love that about you and I hope you love that about me. Love the spirit in me and I will love the spirit in you.
5. You can trust I will not run off and cheat on you
When I say I will stay I stay. I want to believe the good in people and when I see that in you I think I just know it. Maybe I put too much faith in people off of gut intuitions? But once I’ve made up my mind that I like you, you can’t expect me to go running off with some other man. I picked you because of the way you make me feel. Other things will take my time – family, friends, hobbies, work, but not other men, not someone to replace you. This you can believe.