The Women You Left Behind

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I am your daughter, your niece, your goddaughter, and your second cousin. I am the young adult, stumbling ungracefully into the real world. And I am realizing that between all the encouragement you gave me when I scored a goal in club soccer or brought home a paper with a gleaming red A+ or received those college acceptance letters, you’ve suddenly changed your mind.

Now, I am selfish and entitled and lazy. You have pushed me into the corner with the scraps, just as I entered into the adult realm where no one is better than the people they know. Degrees, internships, and carefully calculated scores don’t matter, but a last name can get your foot in the door. I am still outside, and you have told me that I dream too big. If there is anything you learn from me, it will be to stop. Stop calling me self-entitled. Stop blaming societal problems on my mentality. Stop forcing more responsibilities on my shoulders because you don’t care to take them yourself. Stop rejecting the humans you created.

I am a female in the 21st century and my reproductive organs are constantly being debated by politicians and the general population. I am restricted about decisions concerning my own health, even though I have the power to bring life into this world. There are still a lot of people who believe that child-rearing is my only contribution to the world.

I am a female in the 21st century and there is too much expected of me. I should be sage and sweet, but confident and smart. I should be skinny enough to fit into pretty clothes, but have enough meat on my bones that I am not ridiculed for succumbing to society’s pressures. I should be pleasant and helpful always, and if I overstep my boundaries, I am a bitch.

I am a female in the 21st century, and I am still earning less than 80 cents for every dollar a male makes. I am still being held back because of the way I was raised to accept things as they are and to think it impolite to ask for more than I have. I was taught to be gracious and passive, but I am expected to compete with aggressive men.

I am a female in the 21st century and I will not stand to be called names by the generation that raised me to be as I am. I will not stand to dream smaller merely because there are too many of us with high hopes. I will not change my mind like you so conveniently changed yours.

And I will prove you wrong. TC mark

image – Gianni Cumbo
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This is me letting you go

If there’s one thing we all need to stop doing, it’s waiting around for someone else to show up and change our lives. Just be the person you’ve been waiting for.

At the end of the day, you have two choices in love – one is to accept someone just as they are and the other is to walk away.

We owe it to ourselves to live the greatest life that we’re capable of living, even if that means that we have to be alone for a very long time.

“Everyone could use a book like this at some point in their life.” – Heather
Let go now
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  • jessthegirl

    Reblogged this on The Unsaid and commented:
    Just what I wanted to say.

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