I am a completely normal 20-year-old college girl. The only thing that stops me from saying that is that I have never been on a real date, or in a relationship. It always surprises family and friends when I come home from school with no news on the relationship front. “But, you’re so pretty,” they say. My mom tends to say things like, “You’re just not hanging out with the right people,” or, “You’ve got to stop being so picky.” Maybe there is some truth in these things. The main problem that I have is that I absolutely hate dating in 2015.
You know how it goes. You meet some new guy and you swap phone numbers and you try not to totally freak out every time he texts you. If you start texting a lot then, congratulations, you’ve moved up a relationship level to a very special place called “talking”. While you’re in this new and wonderful talking phase, you’ve probably added each other on every social media site. So now, you know that his sister goes to that state school, and he has a little brother back home. He played baseball in high school, and who is that ugly girl he went to prom with? It doesn’t really matter. I mean you’re just talking anyway.
If you’re lucky enough to make it through this inevitable talking phase, maybe he’ll ask you out on a real date. You’ll go out and talk about things and pretend that you didn’t already read about it all on each other’s Facebook profiles. And to me this all just seems so fake. And that’s not what I want. And I’m not sure it’s what anyone wants. But, I think it’s what we’ve come to expect.
So call me old fashion, but I dream of the day when I will meet and guy and he’ll ask for my number. And maybe a day or two later, he’ll call and ask if I want to go out, and maybe I don’t even know his last name yet. We go out, enjoy ourselves and genuinely get to know someone new, while hopefully planting the seeds of a happy and healthy relationship. I know, dream on, right? Things just don’t seem to work like this anymore. Nevertheless, I hold on hope.
So guys out there, I encourage you: if you think that the girl you sits next to you in your statistics class is really cute, tell her. If you want to get to know her, just go ahead and ask her out. I promise, most girls would prefer this over awkward texting. I think you both will have a lot more fun on a real first date.