At the end of the day, I think we all just want to feel free, right?
Free from heartbreak, free from stress, free from disappointment. Everything. We want our hearts to feel light. Our heads to be clear. But, I don’t think we can be free until we let go. Just let go.
It’s so much easier said than done. I know this. And where do we even start? There’s just so much to life. Whether it’s letting go of the tangibles or intangibles. It’s not easy to do.
Before we just start eradicating things from our lives, we need to be in a healthy mind-space. Recklessly deserting things can be painful and potentially damaging to yourself and others. So, let’s not do that.
The good news is: my trick for letting go can be applied to literally anything. Too many clothes. Memories. People.
Let’s tackle it all.
To let go of anything at all, you need to understand why you’re letting go. You need to connect with yourself. Check in with your thoughts and feelings. Figure out what you need and what you don’t.
It can easily be explained by the mindset of the increasingly popular minimalist lifestyle. The minimalists encourage each other to rid themselves of anything that isn’t directly adding value to their lives. This, to me, is something we don’t do nearly enough when it comes to the people we keep in our lives.
The love we accept. The friendships we tolerate. The relationships we ride through on autopilot. Even consider the most devastating of all human encounters: unrequited love.
You need to look at those around you and ask yourselves: what is this person providing to my life? If it’s tears, anxiety, upset stomachs and loss of sleep, I’d say they’ve earned a spot on the “let go” list.
As humans, we are capable of seeing what want to see in each other. We can paint images in our heads of these quintessential relationships, romantic or otherwise.
It’s all because we don’t want to face the disappointing realities. We don’t want to be honest with ourselves. Do it.
You need to be brave. Open your eyes. See people for who they really are.
Once you do this, you will realize how important it is consider your own feelings. To put yourself first.
One of the hardest things in life is recognizing that the people for whom you would be willing to give the world wouldn’t do the same for you. Unfortunately, more often than not, I realized that most people weren’t on the same page as me. Even some of my absolute best friends in the entire world. So I thought.
I examined these relationships and found that I was putting so much energy into them day in and day out while they were just accepting all I had to give. And this is a tough topic, because we aren’t supposed to be kind solely to receive kindness in return. But, I think it’s important to take care of ourselves in such a way that we aren’t expending energy that could eventually lead to an emotional draining.
You see, there is this delicate art to letting go.
A way to responsibly cleanse your life of the things/people you truly don’t need. Realize that you are worth it. The happiness you deserve is within your reach if you’re willing to stretch your arm a little farther than you thought you could.
Let go of the relationships that disappoint you.
Let go of the relationships you lose sleep over.
Let go of the relationships that put knots in your stomach.
Let go of the relationships that make your heart ache every time they don’t pull through for you.
Embrace the people who bring you laughter, warmth, hugs, comfort, pizza. Whatever it is that your soul needs. What you truly need is all that you truly need. The rest is just noise.
Letting go can be painful and sad. It can make you cry. It can make you question yourself. Let those feelings come and then let them go.
Feel the weight lift from your shoulders. The world as it is will come into view and you will begin forming stronger, more meaningful relationships.
Your happiest self is waiting to reveal itself.
Allow yourself to be free.
Just let go.