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My Fertility Clock Keeps Ticking And I Don’t Even Have A Date

First of all, I’m not in a hurry to get married and have babies right now, but I’m concerned if I can meet my Prince Charming (do they even exist in this era?) before it’s too late to be able to conceive naturally. I know that there is an option to freeze my eggs, but I’d rather get pregnant in the traditional way.

The procedure of freezing eggs is not pleasant and it’s expensive. It cost about $10,000 to harvest eggs from the ovaries after a woman has taken medications for several weeks to stimulate egg production. Then the eggs need to be frozen and stored, at a cost of about $500 a year. Each time eggs are thawed, fertilized and transferred to the uterus with IVF it costs about $5,000. On top of that, most insurance companies don’t cover the cost of egg freezing. Experts have said up to now that female fertility begins to drop in the mid-30s, but women are 10 percent less fertile at 27, according to a study.

All this information doesn’t make me feel any better.

I’m in the early 30s and I don’t see myself having kids at this point in my life. I would love to have a family one day soon, but the thing is I don’t even have someone to go on a date with. I try to go out and meet new people and it’s fun and whatever, but why does finding a potential boyfriend seem to be so damn hard nowadays? I blame this generation sometimes. I feel like no one wants to be in a real relationship. Everyone just seems like they don’t want anything serious, and just wants to have fun at the moment. Plus, this generation is full of entertainment and you can pretty much get anything you want in an instant (food, clothes, sex etc.), so people have less patience to be in a relationship. I get it, sometimes life is easier being single and I understand relationships take a lot of work. I respect what people do with their lives, but I don’t want anything that just lasts for a minute. I want to find someone that is not afraid to be in a real relationship.

As I know my fertility clock is ticking day by day, I have the urge that I need to find my Prince Charming ASAP, because the time isn’t going to stop for me. I know that I can’t solve this issue, so I guess I just have to wait patiently and leave it in God’s hands. Everything happens at the right time in life, right? TC mark

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