Being broken is inevitable in life.
As we get older, we experience many kinds of brokenness. Sometimes it’s from a life event, from a break-up, or something other kind of loss. We fear being broken because we are scared of how it will affect us and how it will make us feel vulnerable. As humans, we believe that being broken means unhappiness, and at the end of the day, we all want to be happy. That’s human nature.
I have learned from my previous break-up that being broken might be a beautiful thing. I thought I would never recover from my heartbreak. It took me a very long time to realize that it is OK to be broken. And to be very honest, I’m still in progress. But I feel like I came to a point where I can feel happy again.
When you are freshly broken, you think you’ll never see the good in it because it hurts so badly. It depends on how deep you’ve been broken, but sooner or later you will find out the beauty in the brokenness if you’re open to it.
There is a Japanese art called “Kintsukuroi” – the art of repairing broken pottery with gold or silver lacquer and understanding that the piece is more beautiful for having been broken. When the Japanese mend broken objects, they aggrandize the damage by filling the cracks with gold.
It is also said that, “When something’s suffered damaged and has a history it becomes more beautiful”. It’s never easy to heal when you are broken and it’s a process that takes time. But you learn from the pain, and it makes you both stronger and softer all at once. When you overcome the pain and repair the broken parts, you will have beautiful cracks just like “Kintsukuroi” which will make you much more beautiful in so many ways.
At the end of the day, I believe that we all deserve to be happy and only you can make that happen.