Let’s talk about success. What does it mean to you? I’m not talking about the financial aspect of it, because success means different things to everyone. What are you working for to be successful? What are the actions you are taking to get that seemingly unattainable goal?
As you get older, you have different goals you try to reach. In your teens, it’s usually a job or a driver’s license. Then college, then graduation, then “an adult job.” After that, maybe it’s a stable relationship, marriage, kids, a house, a vacation. Maybe it’s retirement eventually.
My point is that you’re constantly chasing something, and it doesn’t stop. The better question, though, is what are you telling yourself along the way?
Your self-talk is important. You can tell yourself all day you’re smart, but if you call yourself an idiot every other moment, does it really mean anything?
For instance, when people are working toward weight loss, something I see a lot is the mentality that they have to do it perfectly or else.
Or else what? You fail? You eat a cookie and the world ends and your diet is destroyed? I don’t think so.
Or with money-saving. You spend a $100 more than you budgeted for and now you’re homeless? Probably not.
But so often, we trick ourselves into believing the crap we tell ourselves. And I think there’s something to be said about ruining the experience when we’re stuck in our own heads. I know I’ve personally wasted a lot of time and energy worrying about things because of my own thoughts when I was working towards something. I promise you, nine times out of 10, the things you tell yourself are lies.
I encourage you to enjoy the freaking ride through life. Whatever you’re going for — the job, the money, the car, the person — don’t sell yourself short because you’re only holding yourself back.
If you truly believe in something and your ability to get it, you will absolutely get it, my friend. Do yourself a favor and go be a badass. Life is too short to sell yourself short. The accomplishments mean nothing if you are your worst enemy along the way.