When Did Being Single Become A Bad Thing?

Annika Boron
Annika Boron

What I don’t understand about our generation is why some people make a big fuss over being single. Since when did being single become an issue?

Yes, I am single and I couldn’t care less. So why does it bother you that much?

The problem with our generation today is that we make too much of a fuss about love. And it’s not supposed to be that way. Honey, there are plenty things to worry about and love shouldn’t be on top of that list.

Just because all of your friends are in relationships doesn’t mean you should be, too. I know being the third wheel can become tiring, but I tell you, it’s not that bad. You don’t have to make life so complicated. If you don’t want to be the third wheel, then don’t be. You can always make an excuse to back out of an event if you don’t feel like third wheeling, right?

But hey, why should you even listen to this 19-year old girl, right? What does she even know about being single? Does she even know how it feels?

Well, I used to be a hopeless romantic who believed in all of those fairytales, the ones that our mothers read to us before we went to bed. All throughout my life, I’ve been surrounded by people who were in relationships and I’ve wondered what it would be like to be in one myself.

But eventually, through my own eyes, I saw that it wasn’t all rainbows and unicorns. Single doesn’t always mean lonely and relationships don’t always mean happy. Sometimes we need to use our heads and not our hearts. Be realistic.

My point is, you don’t have to force yourself to date if you aren’t ready to be with someone. It all comes down to you. Don’t let other people meddle with your thoughts. Think of it this way, maybe the reason why you are single is because you need to focus on you.

You’ve been through a lot.  You shouldn’t be stressing about this. Stop arguing with yourself. Stop making up excuses for why you should be searching for a relationship. Just breathe. Be happy on your own way and set yourself free.

Please, for once, be selfish and just choose yourself.

It’s okay to be single, because it’s your choice. Baby girl, I tell you it’s okay. Your time will come when you’re ready. You have to learn to love yourself before you can love others.

Yes, I am single and no, I am not available. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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