Do Not Set Yourself On Fire Just To Keep Other People Warm

Woman in darkness with lights
Tommy Tong

Happiness looks gorgeous on you.

Your voice is shaking and raspy from all the times you wanted to say no but said yes. Your fingertips swell from all the times you forgot about yourself and gave away what was yours. Your soul shivers from the coldness of being unloved, forgotten and unworthy.

You give too much to others, thinking that your value comes from how much you give. You think that your emotions are not valued and unimportant. You are afraid to acknowledge your goals and what your needs are. You feel like it’s not safe to be you, so you shut out and abandon yourself from reality

Darling, it’s time to change that.

You are not required to set yourself on fire to keep other people warm.

Light that remaining match in your soul, ignite the fire on the dusty cobwebs of your heart. Give yourself time to heal. This time, do something just for you. Listen to what your soul is craving and do that. Get to know yourself and become your own friend. Let yourself trust you again so your true self will show up from the shadows of your past.

Stop letting people who do so little for you control so much of your mind and emotions. Decide this minute to never again clip your own wings just to make someone happy, never again beg yourself for the love, respect, and attention that you should be showing to yourself.

When someone rejects or abandons you, it isn’t actually about you. It’s about them and their own limitations and needs. Your value does not decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth. You are a Fruit Loop in a world of Cheerios, your eyes are a graveyard of ideas: tragically beautiful. Your smile is a ray of sunshine painted all over your face. Darling, you’re allowed to voice your thoughts and feelings.

You’re allowed to hold the truth that who you are is exactly enough. You are allowed to be happy.

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And one day she discovered that she is fierce and brave, and full of fire, and that not even she could hold herself back because her God burned brighter than her fears.

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