From the moment we’re born, love is something that we’re trained to want. I’m twenty-one, and I can honestly say that I’ve never been in love. It’s not that I’ve never wanted a relationship, but I’m happy to wait for the right person. And also, speaking honestly, falling in love isn’t something I’m that worried about the moment. I’m a big believer in things happening at the right place and at the right time, which is why love is the last thing on my mind.
Relationships take time and effort.
Something you have to ask yourself is, are you ready for a relationship? Obviously, life doesn’t always listen to our plans, but it’s worth considering your own feelings before making any big decisions. A successful relationship isn’t something that’s formed overnight. It takes a lot of work from both people, as well as a lot of time and compromise.
At the moment, I have too much to figure out for myself. I can’t worry about anyone else. That might sound selfish, but I don’t mean it to be. Relationships require work. Figuring out who I am and what I want from life will make love easier when I finally find it.
You shouldn’t do something just because everyone else is doing it.
Just because Disney princesses do it, it doesn’t mean that you need to do it. When we’re kids, we’re expected to grow up and fall in love, get married, and then have kids. But isn’t the world more varied than that? There’s a lot of pressure on people to enter serious relationships, like when they’re falling in love for the first time, dating in college, or thinking about settling down.
But just because your friends are getting engaged and having kids, it doesn’t mean you have to do it too, especially if you don’t want to. Everyone goes through life at their own speed, and you shouldn’t rush into something you’re not sure about, because your friends, family, or strangers on the internet are telling you that you should. There are a lot of people who are more fulfilled and a hell of a lot happier on their own.
You don’t have to be in a relationship to be happy.
Can anyone raise their hand and say that they’re completely happy with the way that they are? Probably not many of us, thanks to social media, celebrities, and flawless Instagram photos. So there’s no point being in a relationship that doesn’t fulfill you, just because you want to look like you’re happy online.
There are times when being in a relationship can make you less happy than being single. But for some reason, there are still some people who believe you can’t be content with your life unless you’re dating someone. Of course, that philosophy is becoming more and more outdated. Self-love is just as important as romantic love, so you don’t need to be dating someone to be happy.
Everyone’s path is different.
Not everyone wants to fall in love, or have kids, or eat pancakes, or go to the moon. Everyone wants different things. What you want is probably different than what your best friend, or your parents, or even your neighbors want. I have friends that are in relationships and friends that aren’t interested in dating at all. And that’s okay.
I’m not in a relationship, and I’m happy to wait for the right person to have a serious relationship with. I might meet the love of my life tomorrow, in a year, or thirty years, and that’s okay. I don’t believe in love at first sight, but I do believe in instantly feeling a connection with someone, whether good or bad, whether romantic or friendly.
Love is different for everyone.
I love the stories where two best friends eventually realize that they’re perfect for each other. And the stories where two people hate each other at first, but then realize that they love each other. I believe that different people find love in different ways, and although not all loves are forever, they’re infinitely important to ourselves and our futures.
But there’s a big difference between being in love with someone and loving someone. While I love my family, friends, and random dogs I meet on the street, I’m not in love with anyone. There are different kinds of love, and we can learn something from each of them. I also don’t believe that being in love is about becoming someone’s other half, but about two people being whole by themselves.
For something like that, I’m happy to wait.