“The Thrill of the Chase” is a game everyone has to learn to play whether they like it or not. Because dating is HARD, pride-consuming, and requires a lot of effort.
Nowadays, we consider ourselves wanting to do anything but to get attached to someone. Rather, we pride ourselves in how many different people we text at once, how many partners we choose to get intimate with and how euphoric it is to enjoy the single life while avoiding committed relationships.
Don’t get me wrong—I’m a self proclaimed “thrill of the chase” aficionado myself. I personally love that adrenaline rush you feel when you constantly play catch and bait with some guy who you don’t really want to express your feelings to but don’t want to lose either.
It builds up anticipation because it makes this whole dating experience a lot more exciting and inevitably makes you want him even more.
But look, I’m not here trying to promote this type of game with you. And I too know what it means when you start losing your mind over a boy.
Instead, I have to point out how OVERRATED the thrill of the chase is.
The answer is simple: Chivalry is not dead, ladies.
Think about it. When you really, truly start liking a guy, you try to do everything in your power to try to get his attention. Rather than setting timers on when you can text him next (since, duh, it took him a good 20 minutes to reply to you first), you’ll find yourself simply not wanting to wait since you’re dying to carry on the conversation. You don’t try to dodge catching feelings for him or refrain from admitting how you think about the mutual connection because you’re just willing to tell him, even if that means risking it all.
Believe it or not, guys act the same way.
Yes, despite how they act, they too are rational human beings with the same functioning brains and emotional capacities.
And take my word for it, if a boy REALLY likes you, he will skip the race and make sure you know how much he likes you.
If you’re the one he wants, he won’t ever want to chase you. He’ll make you his starting player and clear out his bench.
You won’t be some “side chick” to him, you’ll become his sidekick, his partner in crime.
So ladies, don’t ever settle for less. Wait for the guy who’s willing to make you his one and only. Play the game with caution, and may the odds be ever in your favor.