Going through a breakup? I’m well aware how painful that can be. But there IS a silver lining!
Here are seven reasons to be happy a relationship ended:
1. More free time.
Want to spend all weekend in your pajamas watching Netflix? Doable. Want to go on a sudden road-
trip? Get in the car.
Want to go to the bar and flirt with randoms? It’s on the menu.
Suddenly you don’t have to worry about anyone else’s schedule. You can do whatever you want, whenever you want, with whoever you want, job and other responsibilities permitting.
2. The relationship in its current state was wrong.
Even if you happened to think that every day you spent with your ex was all puppies and rainbows, something was deeply broken to get to the point you’re at now.
Whether you seriously want them back or you are relieved they are gone, what we can say for sure is that something about it wasn’t quite right and now you’re liberated from the weight of that.
3. No more annoying “quirks” to deal with.
Did your ex snore? Leave their socks all over the living room? Drive you crazy with garage band practice?
Guess what, you don’t have to deal with any of it. If you were ever so irritated by their habits that you wanted to shake them, you don’t have to grind your teeth while biting your tongue any longer.
4. Post breakup is a great time for self examination and reinvention.
If you ever felt stifled by your relationship, now is the time to shed the feeling and examine what YOU really want your life to look like without a peanut gallery whose requirements could stifle your progress. You now have the opportunity to reinvent yourself.
5. Any tension you and your ex had with friends and family is over.
Did you ever have to suffer through your friends’ and family’s disapproval of your ex? Did you have issues with his or her family?
That time is now over. Dealing with your friends or family disliking your ex is tough, and being able to let go of those issues can be a real relief.
6. You’re now free to meet the one.
Yes, being dumped sucks the big one. However, now you are free to find the right person for you. If you were in a bad relationship, now you know more about what you don’t want.
If the relationship was great (at least at some point) then you have some experience of what worked. If you were hoping they would just change a few things, you’re now clearer on what those are. All of this experience helps for next time.
7. No more judgment or criticism.
If you were with someone who made you feel like whatever you did was wrong, you no longer have to deal with their likes and dislikes. So often we conform to what our partner wants without question, and now that time is over.