6 Things You Should Never Have To Do To Make Yourself “More Attractive” For A Man

Mean Girls / Amazon.com
Mean Girls / Amazon.com

1. Shave.

It’s your body and as long as you’re clean and hygienic you shouldn’t feel obligated to shave your legs, armpits, or anything else. Body hair is just that; hair. You want to grow it out? That’s cool. You want to wax it all off? That’s cool too. The only thing that’s not cool is shaving because you feel like you won’t be able to get a boyfriend if you don’t.

2. Dumb yourself down.

You’re an intelligent woman, and you shouldn’t have to hide that fact just to attract a man. Chances are you paid good money for your degree. Even if you’re self-taught, the effort you put into your education isn’t something to trivialize. If he’s intimidated by your intellect then he’s not the type of person you want to be in a relationship anyway.

3. Have sex with him.

Have sex with as many people as you want, or as few; your body, your rules. Just don’t have sex with a man if you feel pressured or you’re not ready. If you think he’ll like you more if you put out, remember that your body is not a bargaining tool, and using it in that way is disrespectful to yourself. Have sex if it’s truly what you want to do, not if it’s just what he wants and you’re simply trying to please him.

4. Be quiet when he says or does something that offends you.

If he makes a comment you don’t like, tell him. Communication is important and you should let your partner know when you’re upset with something he’s done. Don’t hold back because you think if you let him know how you feel he’ll think you’re too sensitive or angry; your emotions should be important to him, and if they’re not, then he’s not the one for you.

5. Dress a certain way.

Your own personal style is an indicator of who you are, and there’s no need to change that for a man (are you sensing a theme here? Good.). If you want to show off your body, go ahead and rock that short dress and five-inch stiletto heels despite him saying you look like a slut. Or keep it covered up and demure — even if he asks you to show some skin.

6. Be anyone other than yourself.

Not all women fit the standards society has arbitrarily set in place for being “feminine.” And honestly, they shouldn’t have to aspire to those. Not all women are even attracted to men, and none of us should have to feel like we need to change who we are to make them like us.

The bottom line is women are autonomous beings who make their own life choices. Men can either deal with that or keep it moving, because we weren’t put on this earth for the sole purpose of pleasing them. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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