I think that one of the most basic human mindsets that’s hidden deep inside every one of us, is the subconscious fear of future. Even though we might not be aware of it, future scares us, because of one simple reason – that we have no idea what is going to happen. That nothing is certain. The fact that despite everything that we have now, despite the way that the things are right now, everything can change in a blink of an eye and we have no idea what is ahead on the road, is scary.
And since people naturally don’t like changes, they don’t like not knowing what is going to happen, or the feeling of not having things under control.
Yet for some reason, the best things in life always came to me when I didn’t see them coming, when I didn’t have them under control.
Whether it was love, travel or experiences of any kind. They might have happened because of something I did but I did not plan them. From one moment to another, they just happened.
Have you ever wondered what makes a great book or a movie so immersing? What makes you keep your fingers crossed and cheer for the characters? It’s the fact that you don’t know how it all ends. What makes a great story great is that you don’t know if the main hero is going to beat the odds and make it through – he might, or he might not, but you won’t know until it happens.
But most people do not realize that. They try to fight this fear by constantly planning out their lives. Sometimes even for years and decades ahead, trying to eliminate this uncertainty. “I’m going to plan out everything for the next ten years and the fear will disappear. I will know what’s going to happen and then there will be nothing to worry about.”
And sometimes I forget myself and I start doing the same thing.
The fear of future overcomes me and that’s when I start to plan my life and desperately cling to those plans. And the things that they’re built upon.
But when you do that it makes you live only for the future. You change your mindset to “Oh, when I’ll do that and go there and achieve that, then I’ll be happy.” And you forget to be happy now.
The thing is, living only for the future is just as bad as living in the past – and surprisingly similar. Because it makes you forget to live in the present, in the moment.
So what can you do about it? How not to get sucked in and paralyzed by this fear? The only thing there is to do, is to embrace it. Embrace the fear and accept the big truth – that you have no idea how it’s all going to play out, no matter how scary that might be. You might make a plan, you might set goals and have dreams, wish for them and work for them to happen. And you definitely should – but that’s as much as you can do.
Actually, there’s one more thing you can do. You can realize that not knowing what the future holds for you is not just the scariest thing about life – it’s also the best thing about it. It’s what makes it so much fun. It’s what creates the moments that life is worth living for. The same thing that makes life so scary, makes it also the biggest adventure of all.
And so waking up in the morning every day is like standing on a beginning of a road, not knowing if what it brings is going to be good or bad. You have no idea how you, your life, and the world are going to look like in the evening. Every morning you brush up your shoes, take a deep breath and step on the road.