Nothing can make people more nervous than the prospect of a first date. Not only do you want things to go well, but you’re petrified of how uncomfortable the situation will be if things go wrong.
One of the best ways to ensure that a first date goes smoothly is by staying in control of the conversation and avoiding certain uncomfortable topics.
If you want to have a successful first date, then consider avoiding these somewhat awkward conversation topics. And, while they may seem obvious and a no-brainer, you’d be surprised how many people totally fail by adding these topics to conversations.
1. Politics and Religion
A lot of people like to bring these controversial topics up because they want to know right away if their potential mate shares their values. While it seems like a good idea in theory, it’s best to avoid these sticky subjects on a first date.
Wait and see if you and your potential match have great chemistry before you start vetting them as compatible for a long term relationship.
2. Anything Too Personal
It’s great to be an “open book” and freely share personal details. However, avoid talking about anything that’s too personal or traumatic.
You might have great intentions, but stories about dysfunctional childhoods or past misfortunes can really drag a date down. Instead, try to keep the subject matter light and upbeat. Don’t be a “Debbie downer.”
Sure, we all ultimately have one thing on the brain! However, bringing up sex on a first date is just awkward. If you’re attracted to a guy you might feel the urge to tell him what you want to do to him later, but it’s probably best to keep your love of anal sex toys a secret, at least until the third date.
4. The Ex Files
Last but not least, avoid discussing your ex on a first date at all costs. There’s simply no way to succeed when you bring up your ex. If you have nothing but positive things to say, your date might think that you still have feelings for this man. If you have nothing but negative things to say, your date will worry that he’ll receive the same scorn should he ever break up with you.
Avoid this subject altogether. Discussions about ex-partners should be saved for once the two of you are actually dating and want to open up to one another.
If you can avoid these difficult conversation topics, you’re sure to have a wonderful first date. Remember, you can always talk about the difficult stuff down the road when you’re actually a couple.