I have always lived by the motto that dating is all about finding someone at the right time and right place. While it may seem easy, it is a difficult thing to achieve because it involves two people who bring with them unknown variables and baggage that may not be apparent right away when you first meet someone.
I’m sure we’ve all been in the situation where we have liked another person but come to find out that the timing was off because their attention or focus was on their job, friends, and other aspects of their life. While deep down, you know it could have worked out if they gave it a shot, the other person may decide that being with someone else is not their main priority.
Likewise, the same can be said for an individual trying to find someone in the right place. For example, if you live in California, it is less likely that you would meet someone from the East Coast, unless you have friends or family from there or decide to travel there. While the advent of dating apps has allowed people to expand their dating market, it still does not solve this issue. Two people must be willing to first communicate, build a bond, and then decide that they should meet. While this may have happened naturally, things such as the pandemic have caused people to be even further from one another as they take precautions to limit the number of people they are around.
With that being said, people must not give up hope on dating! The reason for this is that millions of people around the United States are moving from every state. In turn, individuals may decide that now is the right time for them to move to another state that has a better cost of living. As such, this pandemic for better or for worse is causing people to reevaluate their lives and forcing them to make drastic decisions that they would not have made before the pandemic. Furthermore, this massive migration of people moving from all parts of the United States means that you are more likely to meet someone now who is not only in your city at the right time but also in the right place. Although you may not feel comfortable enough to meet in person, depending on your level of precaution, you can start to develop the necessary conversations needed to build a bond.
I promise that if you were to go to your dating apps, you will notice the influx of people moving from different places to your state. So rather than wallow in the fact that we may not be able to meet people in bars, clubs, concerts, or anywhere we may have met people before the pandemic, just know that things are beginning to lean in your favor. Start those conversations on dating apps and continue practicing your social skills. Because once the lockdown subsides and life starts going back to normal, you will see that many people, especially introverts, will have a hard time readjusting to the sudden flood of people looking to spark a connection.
What we should remember is that this pandemic, although terrible, has given people an invaluable gift if they choose to accept it. And that gift has been the ability to be alone and self-reflect on the things that you have done over the years. If you struggled with dating before the pandemic, why not reevaluate what you have been doing? If there are things you wanted to change about yourself, do it! Reinvent yourself, think about the person you want to become or who you truly want to be with, and start understanding your worth. Because If you don’t know your worth, how will anyone else know yours?
So, when you feel like dating is futile, remember, as Mark Twain once said, “20 years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do… so sail away from the safe harbor… Explore. Dream. Discover.” And try giving dating apps another go. Maybe on this attempt, you’ll hit it off with someone at the right time and right place.