You Are Not Perfect, But That’s Okay

You wake up each morning with a swollen face and tired eyes. You have pimples and wrinkles in your face, and you do not have the ideal cheekbones. You do not wear that much make-up, because you feel that it won’t change anything at all. You think you’re not beautiful, and each time you look at the mirror you say, “Why am I not as pretty as the other girls?” but you always let it go because you can’t do anything about it anyway.

You find it hard to choose what to wear. You are not fit or slender either. You do not have a flat belly or perfectly shaped body. You are not flawless. You do not have that milky white legs and toned arms. You always settle with jeans, shirt and sneakers. You think you’re not sexy, and each time you look at the mirror you say, “Why am I not as slim as the other girls?” but you always let it go because you can’t do anything about it anyway.

You do have a job, but your salary is not enough. You have to pay for bills and attend to other responsibilities. You have to support your siblings and parents. You are overworked, and you don’t have time to take a vacation and relax. You are not that happy with what you do, and you are not satisfied with your career. You think you’re envious of your friends who have better jobs than yours, and each time you look at the mirror you say, “Why am I not as successful as them?” but you always let it go because you can’t do anything about it anyway.

You feel alone and isolated. You are single and afraid to fall in love. You don’t take risks to commit yourself to someone. But you once believed in fairytales. You once dreamt of living with someone who will love you as you are. You have felt how it was to love and be loved, but you also fell hard. You were hurt, that’s why you cannot afford to feel pain again. You think no one will ever stay with you, and each time you look at the mirror you say, “Why am I not as deserving to be loved as the other ladies?” but you always let it go because you can’t do anything about it anyway.

But hey, honey. The next time you wake up, look at the mirror. Yes, you are not as beautiful as the other girls, but you have eyes that can see, ears that can hear, nose that can smell, and voice that can sing and others do not. Shouldn’t you be thankful, at least?

Yes, you are not fit or slender, not flawless and toned, but you have hands that could write and feet that could walk, and others do not. You have no serious diseases that need immense treatment, and others do have. Shouldn’t you be thankful, at least?

Yes, you do not have a high salary, but you are employed. You could pay bills, and you could help your family even in the least way. While the others? Some couldn’t even buy food, and don’t even have a home. Shouldn’t you be thankful, at least?

And yes, you are single, but you have your kin. You have friends. You have someone to share companionship with. While the others? Some do not even have a mom or dad, and are completely alone in life. Love is not only felt by being in a romantic relationship, honey. Shouldn’t you be thankful, at least?

You’re conscious, you’re insecure, and you’re envious. You fall and make mistakes. You over think and you feel you’re not enough, that you’re always lacking. But we are all like that. We all wish we were someone else, but today isn’t the time for wishes. Why hope for something that won’t happen when you can make an exciting twist in your life? Everything is in your hands, and only you can make that change happen. Remember that.

Always be thankful for who and what you are today. Accept and love yourself, and only then you won’t seek, only then you will find complete and genuine happiness.

Yes, honey. You are imperfect, but that’s okay.