We all wish we could have a glimpse into the mind of the person we’re crushing on. Does he like me as much as I like him? Does she even know I exist? Why isn’t he calling me back? Why doesn’t she text me back?

With all these modern dating rules, it’s really hard to tell when someone is or isn’t really into you. In the happy scenarios, you know when someone likes you because he or she actually told you that. In the not so happy scenarios, you’re left wondering if something is ever going to happen for the two of you. Even though from a girl’s perspective the guys are the ones that are pretty hard to read, we’re gonna switch it up a bit and put things from a girl perspective. So here are a couple of helpful tips that might show you when a girl is just not that into you.

1. Line: “I’m just not ready for a relationship right now.”


What she’s really saying: “I don’t want a relationship with you.”

It doesn’t have to be a serious relationship. It’s not like you’re proposing or anything. But if you asked a girl out (or tried to; repeatedly) and she eventually says that she’s not ready for…well…anything right now, that means that she’s just not that into you. When a girl really likes a guy, trust me, she will want to spend every waking moment with that guy. And if it clicks, she will want to spend more and more time with him.

2. Line: “I feel like I should focus on myself more,” or “I feel like I should find myself right now.”


What she’s really saying: “I’d rather be single than be with you.”

Don’t take it personally, it’s just that from her perspective, you’re not really compatible. Girls usually know from the second they see you if you’re boyfriend material or not, and yes, sometimes impressions can be changed, but for the most part, by the time you start talking, she’s already made up her mind. She’s probably looking for someone that will make her want to stop “focusing” or “finding” herself, and that’s just not you right now.

3. Line: “I just don’t see you that way.”


What she’s really saying: “You’re totally friendzoned.”

Ah, the friendzone. A dangerous, mythical place where so many perish, but few come back from wholeheartedly. Truth of the matter is, people that get friendzoned are either A. not attractive to that specific girl or B. not boyfriend material, but mostly A. Don’t get me wrong, you may be a real hunk of a man, but attractiveness is very subjective, and depending on so many factors that change from person to person. If one chick is attracted to bulky guys, another definitely finds skinny nerds to be incredibly HOT and so on.

4. Line: “This is sooo not the time, but maybe…in the future.”

What she’s really saying: “Still don’t want to be in a relationship with you right now, but please do continue to boost my ego.”

Not only is this girl not into you right now, but she’s also pretty much using you to get the male attention that she wants in order to feel better about herself. All the compliments you’ve been giving her, the reasons why you like her, the little presents you gave? Yup, she took all of those, and used them to boost her own ego. She still won’t date ya though.

5. Line: “I already have someone/am already seeing someone.” (even though you know for a fact, she’s not!)

What she’s really saying: “Please don’t talk to me again or my imaginary boyfriend will kick your ass.”

Sometimes chicks like to make up fake boyfriends for various and intricate reasons. One would be that they’re tired of cheesy pickup lines and want to cut it short. Another is when they don’t think the guy hitting on them even deserves the chance of a date. Third reason is: when they don’t want to hurt any feelings, and they’re afraid of telling the guy that they’re just not that into him.

6. Situation: not answering calls and/or not calling back

What she’s really saying: “Please take the hint and leave me alone.”

If you’ve called this girl on a Friday and it’s already next Friday and you haven’t heard anything from her, then it’s pretty clear that she’s not interested. Interested people pick up their phones, call back when necessary, and text when they get a chance. Really interested people keep their phones close by at all times at the prospect of receiving a phone call or text, while obsessed people reply/answer within 2 seconds of receiving something, and usually return way too many calls and messages back (with a 1:6 ratio – for example: you text “hey”, and immediately your phone starts buzzing: “heeeeeey” “what’s up?” “how r u” “wanna hang out” “or…something else” “whatever you want”)

7. Situation: ‘message seen at …’


What she’s really saying: “I read what you said but I have no interest whatsoever in replying now….or ever.”

This is the worst of the worst and I personally hate Facebook for having this feature. If she’s not replying back within a day but has Facebook activity (ie: selfies, check-in, etc) then my man, I am sorry to say that she is just not that into you.

8. Line: “I’m really busy this week.”


What she’s really saying: “I really don’t want to hang out with you.”

This is the case of the modern busy girl. Which many of us truly are, balancing a full time job, a couple of other projects and a social life (plus family). But if she says she’s busy this week and doesn’t tell you when she IS available (ie: “busy this week, but let’s meetup next Monday“) it’s almost as saying that she will be permanently busy.

9. Line: “oh, I wish I could, but I’m sick.” (Then checks-in at a club or public place)


What she’s really saying: “This is not how I want to spend my day/night.”

Pretty self-explanatory.

10. Situation: when asked to do something, she’s never really sure/ keeps avoiding it.

Line: “maybe…I don’t know”, “I’m doing something now, but maybe later” “Idk, I’ll call you later” but never really calls.


What she’s really saying: “If I’m really bored and have nothing else better to do, maybe I’ll go out with you. Or maybe not”.

When she’s always avoiding getting together with you, and is never really sure when or what to do, it’s just another sign. Again, when a chick digs you she will say yes to pretty much anything that involves spending time with you. When she’s not that into you she will always find ways to avoid seeing you.

That’s just the thing. Most girls know from the get-go when they’re into someone or not, and they will give clear signs of that (flirting, calling, Facebook likes, etc.) But if she’s not that interested, even if you had a weekend of fooling around, she will pretty much avoid you at all costs.

What other signs do you know of that tell you when someone is not that into you?