When Your Ex Tells You He Never Loved You

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I had recently come face-to-face with an ex-boyfriend of mine. And not just any ex-boyfriend, the ex-boyfriend of ALL ex-boyfriends. Every girl has one, and he is the bane of our existence. He and I dated off-and-on for over three years and to say it was a tumultuous relationship would be a colossal understatement.

Over the course of those three years, he lied to me constantly, cheated with multiple women, and did whatever he could to viciously annihilate any and all dignity I had left. Regardless of what he did, I chose to look past his indiscretions. It was a toxic, abusive relationship, and he was like a drug I couldn’t quit. Even though he was comparable to Satan reincarnated, it didn’t stop my heart from loving him immensely.

As we were reminiscing on the past, he decided to drop a bombshell. He told me that he never loved me. And let me tell you, it hit me like a ton of bricks. It was almost equivalent to how you would feel if you ripped your heart out and let a semi-truck run over it. I don’t care how over an ex you claim to be; nothing in this world will prepare you to hear that.

So here is what you do if you find yourself in a similar situation. You must act against all of your emotions and stay calm. Do not cry to him. If he could look you in the face and tell you that he didn’t love you, crying to him will not change those feelings. His words of venom cannot be unsaid. He showed you his true colors; so don’t use them to paint another picture.

You must be the strong, confident person I know you are. You must act like it does not bother you. Why? Because it shouldn’t. Whoever this person was doesn’t care. They don’t care about you or what you had. They are a piece of your past and they must remain as such. Keep moving forward and one day, you will wake up with a smile on your face and realize that you don’t care either. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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