Can Someone Please Tell Me What The Hell Happened To Romance?


Listen, I’m not going to sit here and tell you that I expect boys to hold doors open for me and pull out the chair for me at dinner (I am more than capable of doing that for myself). But, how about we actually go to dinner in the first place?

I DO NOT expect men to plan extravagant dates for the sake of paying for my food. But, these days it seems like most guys are completely resistant to the idea of “dating” in general. We live in a time where it is more common to “Netflix and chill” with girls on Tinder than to actually take a girl out on a real date.

I honestly want to know, what happened to going to a dinner and a movie without the intentions of having sex at the end of the night?

I am also not saying this is all in the fault of men either. Women are to blame as well. We meet a guy we really like and commonly are afraid that if we say or do the wrong thing they will leave and find someone better (this could also just be how I am, so feel free to correct me if I am wrong).

But, for those of you who do this, you need to stand up for what you want. If you want to date someone instead of just “hang out” with them, tell them! And if they give you a hard time about it, maybe you shouldn’t be so concerned with losing them, because, to me, it seems like the best thing you could do is lose them.

Call me hopeless, but I think that there are still some men left out there that still believe in romance. There are men still out there that aren’t just interested in having sex with you. There are men out there who won’t tell you they “aren’t ready” for a relationship. There are some men out there that would love to just go out to a nice restaurant for dinner and really get to know you for who you are.

These men might even be easier to find if we weren’t so busy wasting our time with the ones who keep telling you they “really do like you”, but do nothing to prove it. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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