The Strongest Girls Are The Ones Who Silently Deal With Their Loneliness

Toa Heftiba

I get it and you are not alone.

Lately, I have been feeling lonely. Even though I am surrounded by people that love me and I know that they are willing to help me and comfort me, this loneliness is so prominent; so burdensome.

If you are feeling the weight of loneliness in your life, regardless of whether you’re single or not, just know that I’m there with you. I cried myself to sleep last night and it was something that I had not expected to do. I was hugging a friend and then the realization of where I am in my season of life stung, big time. I enjoy being able to hug and comfort people but this time around I’m the one that needs comforting – even though I try to be strong by not letting the real me show through.

To get up every day and put on a smile on my face even though I’m sad is hard sometimes. I have learned that I need to choose joy. Every day I need to remind myself of truth and be hopeful in my season. I have learned to hide a lot of stuff because of my personal life and I sometimes bottle everything up and think that I need to say everything is fine even though I don’t think it is. Fake it til you make it, as the people say. That doesn’t work – it only creates a certain kind of sadness and if you let it fester it can and will overwhelm you. Trust me, I would know.

My lovely friend, please believe that this is temporary. Know that you are going to come out stronger after this feeling. Don’t settle for less because you are afraid to be alone –learn to know more about who you are and why you were created! Find your purpose and don’t let anyone tell you that you are worthless because you are not.

When those stabs of loneliness seem to hurt more on a certain day – cry out! Shout your frustrations to God; scream into your pillow, eat that quart of ice cream while watching a sad movie. Just don’t stay there. Pick yourself up and pour your heart out at the feet of Jesus because He mends our brokenness. He is our Healer. As Psalm 34:18 says,

“The Lord is close to the broken hearted; He rescues those whose spirits are crushed.”

I am going to be transparent with you. I have been longing for a home to call my own but I know that ultimately, this isn’t home. To be with Jesus is home. I’m just passing by in this life and know that the one that sustains me will never leave me nor forsake me as I walk on this earth. That is something that makes me realize how loved I am and you are just as loved and cared for!

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