Independence is about having the freedom to pursue your passions and be your own person, inside and outside of the relationship — as long as it shows respect to your partner.
Here is a joke… Two people decide they are going to get drinks next weekend. They text and reschedule, text and reschedule, text and reschedule… until eventually one of them dies of old age and the drinks are never had.
Men and women have to know they are a great catch. Seriously, I can’t stress this enough. If you don’t believe in yourself, how can you expect others to?