You’re not afraid to love. You’re just afraid of not being loved back. You’re just afraid of compromising and committing again. You’re just afraid of getting hurt again. You’re not yet ready to let go of the past, because the remnants of it still haunt you. You’re just not ready of accepting the fact that your relationship is over. You just can’t move on. You’re not afraid to love. You’re just afraid that you can’t find a future love that is as sweet and almost-perfect as you thought with your past love.
It’s okay, hun. Breathe. I swear, It’s okay. We all go through that phase, the transition stage from grief to anger to acceptance. It’s okay to be mad. You deserve it, and he deserves all the hatred you have for him. It’s okay to cry. I know that feeling, when You’re letting your emotions out and words aren’t enough to let them out so you just want to cry. Weep. Shout. Scream. It’s okay. After that, you’ll realize You’re tired. And then, you’ll just want to move on. You’ll accept that everything has already happened so you just have to deal with it.
Focus on yourself. This time, think of yourself first over other people. Cleanse your mind. Meditate. Pamper yourself. Indulge in some guilty pleasures. Relax. Go to a vacation. Try extreme activities. Try all of them with just yourself. Try to search for yourself again, your old self that you lost when you loved. Learn to appreciate and love yourself, your body, your beauty that you have never done before.
Go to dates. Small dates, group dates, meet-ups, etc. Meet other people. Widen your social circle. Don’t imprison yourself in a small world. Be friends with others. Slowly open your heart to the possibility of falling in love again.
Don’t rush love. The future right guy will give you the right love in the right timing and place. Give yourself enough time. If you aren’t ready then it’ okay. But don’t rush. Love when your ready, not when You’re lonely. You have all the time in the world. If he really is the right guy, he’ll surely wait for you.
Be fair to yourself and to the person you’ll love in the future. You deserve to love and to be loved. Don’t close your heart in the possibility of falling in love again. Yes, you’ve been hurt before. Yes, you’ve loved and lost. Yes, you’ve been left behind. But that doesn’t mean that your future guy will hurt you too. Learn to trust again. Learn to love again. Learn to commit again. Love is a big gamble: if you want to win, you have to take risks.
To the girl who’s afraid to fall in love again, don’t be. Your future guy will help you soar again. And if you happen to fall out again, somebody else will lend a hand on you again. Just don’t lose faith in love. This time, he will not let you fall alone because he will fall with you.