You Don’t Know Me Half As Well As You Think You Do

Unsplash, Pablo Charnas
Unsplash, Pablo Charnas

People don’t want to hear the truth, because they don’t want their illusions destroyed. This is the saddest part of being human. We tend to think inside the box, when in fact things are so much better outside of it.

It’s okay. You can judge me. It’s your prerogative.

The thing is, you don’t know what I’ve been through, what I’ve failed to do, what I’m planning to accomplish, and what I am currently into right now. All you know is my name, what is written in my bio, what you saw in my feed, and what others told you. If you think that’s enough for you to disturb my serenity, go ahead. But know that I won’t stoop down to your low level. And also know that you’re terribly wrong, funny, and desperate.

Just because I don’t react, doesn’t mean I didn’t notice. Not saying anything is the best response, for silence can never be misquoted.

Stay away from toxic people. They comment on the smallest flaw or perceived imperfection. They drag up your past and won’t allow you to be different. They act as if they are fabulous and never make mistakes.

They leave you feeling guilty and ashamed of who you are. They are critical, they are controlling, and they don’t think about your needs. They leave you feeling beaten, wounded, bruised, and torn. They don’t care about your feelings and they like to see you suffer. It’s always about them and what they think, what they want, what they feel. These people are helpless and should be ignored.

Nothing in life is random — nothing is accidental. Everything happens for a reason and things happen when they have to. You don’t have to fight that. The less you respond to negative people, the more peaceful your life will become. 

When I was younger, I used to admire intelligent people. But as I mature, I’ve realized that kind people are worth admiring more.

Oftentimes, we need to be stepped onto and to be hurt in order to grow. Some lessons are actually learned best through pain. Not everyone will understand you, but the ones that do are enough.

Be careful who you open up to. Only a few people actually care. The rest want something to gossip about.

Listen, you’ll end up disappointed if you think people will do for you as you do for them. Not everyone has the same heart as you. You can’t please everybody. A little less judgement and a little more kindness will make you more attractive.

After all, nothing is permanent, so don’t stress yourself too much. No matter how bad the situation is, it will pass and it will eventually change.

Darling, please do yourself a big favor. Don’t shrink who you are to make other people comfortable. Don’t let anyone manipulate you or judge your life’s decisions. Don’t lower your standards to fit in. Find courage from yourself and keep going.

Finally, say this out loud: “I put zero weight into anybody else’s opinion. I respect their freedom of speech, but will avoid their pathetic judgement, because they don’t know me as much as I do.” Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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