Our first few dates will appear a bit staged. You’ll choose a nice outfit, take time to apply your make-up and get your hair done. You’ll look stunning and I’ll be impressed.
I’ll pick you up at eight and we’ll go somewhere nice and talk about important stuff. I’ll ask all kinds of pertinent questions because I want to make a good impression and you’ll kindly reciprocate. Honestly, I’m going to make an effort to prove that I can have an intelligent conversation.
That’s the way dating works in the initial stages. But, the truth is, I can’t wait to get past it.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I care about all the important stuff – your job, your ambitions and your future plans. But in the courting stages, it seems forced. It feels like it’s a big show. In fact, it feels fake.
I’ll patiently look forward to the day when you can truly be yourself around me. When it doesn’t matter if your hair’s messy, if you’re not wearing a bra, or make-up. When you feel comfortable enough to wear my well-worn white t-shirt.
When we get to this level, that’s when the meaningful conversations will happen. I want to start with the little things like, “What’s your favorite song?” and before you respond “I can’t pick one… I have so many favorites”, I want you to tell me the first song that comes to your mind because I have plans for this song. I want to ask you irrelevant questions like, “Did you prefer NSYNC or The Backstreet Boys?”, which has absolutely no bearing on life, but I still want to know.
I want to know you better than anyone has ever known you. I want you to be comfortable enough to share every inconsequential bit of information with me. If you think something is insignificant – it’s important to me. That’s how I want to feel about you.
I can’t wait to get to know you without your make-up on – when you don’t feel the need to impress me with looks. And I’m going to ask you all those important questions that I did in the beginning. Because this time I want genuine, untainted answers.