Contrary to what many women may think, there are some good guys out there. Personally, I know about two or three. Just kidding! But seriously, there are decent guys out there who are genuine, understanding, and thoughtful—guys who will do whatever it takes to remain faithful. But on the other end of the spectrum, there are the douchebags.
If a man just wants to have fun (read: have sex), there are plenty of women out there who are looking for the same thing, so there’s no need for any man to manipulate a girl who’s looking for something serious when he has no intention of settling down. It’s not cool to mess with someone’s feelings. That said, it happens all the time. These are the four most common ways men manipulate women into having sex with them.
1. They use those precious three words.
You’ve been out on a few dates. He’s kissed you, nibbled on your neck, fondled your breasts. You’ve enjoyed the foreplay, and really wanted to go all the way but you weren’t quite ready. You want to make sure he’s right for you. You don’t want to appear to be easy.
One night, he invites you out to a special dinner. You spent hours figuring out which dress to wear because he has that impact on you. He makes you feel beautiful and you don’t want to disappoint. After dinner, you go back to his place. He passionately kisses you while removing your dress. As things begin to intensify, you allow him to unhook your bra and he takes control of your body. But when he reaches for your undies, you say “wait,” and you hold his hand. At this point his horniness is out of control. So when he realizes what you need to hear, he says it, wether or not he feels it. “I love you,” he whispers.
2. They feed you alcohol.
Some guys will happily play the friendship role. Maybe you’re in a relationship, maybe he thinks you’re out of his league. He probably enjoys hanging out with you, but really and truly, he just wants to get laid. So, he’ll communicate with you regularly, develop a friendship and turn to you for advice. He may even ask you to set him up with one of your friends.
He wants you to trust him. Because that will open doors for him. Or, more specifically, open up a pair of legs for him (yours!). He knows that, eventually, both of you will happen to be out together. And inevitably, you guys will have a few drinks, dance a little, have a few morrrre drinksssss. Do I need to say more?
3. They tell you a sad story.
When a guy taps into your emotions, it’s hard not to fall for him. He lets down his guard, opens up, and confides in you. As he pours out his heart, you listen intently because you want to comfort him. But somewhere in the mix, you get sucked in as he shares his pain. You sympathize with him as he shows that he, too, can be vulnerable.
The next day, it’s natural for you to check up on him. After all, you care about him and he’s going through a difficult time. You begin to talk a little bit more. You realize that he’s really funny. Or maybe he’s not funny, but he makes you laugh. And when you connect with someone on an emotional level, chances are your body will oblige him.
4. They listen to you.
When you and your man are going through a difficult time, as your friend he’s going to be there to listen to your concerns. The more emotional you get, the more you want to be comforted. He then takes you in his arms and strokes your hair. Gentleman or not, if he knows you’re vulnerable, he knows he can probably get some action out of it…