A few weeks ago XOJane published an essay titled, It Happened To Me: My High School English Teacher Told Me He Loved Me (And Nobody Did Anything).
The student wrote:
I stopped sleeping at night. If I ever did fall asleep I would wake up in the middle of the night wracked with guilt or sweating from nightmares. The power was slipping away from me, and I knew what he was doing was wrong, but I was in too deep and it was my fault. He told me that. He said he was attracted to me because my short uniform skirt and tight polo shirt were too alluring. He said that if I hadn’t wanted his attention I wouldn’t have asked to interview him in the first place. He called me a temptress and a tease and told me that I was lucky to have gotten an A on my last paper because if it weren’t for my pretty eyes I wouldn’t have.
When he asked me to meet him after school, I cracked. I went home crying and confided in my brother, begging him not to tell my parents. They would be so disappointed in me, I thought. I had tempted a grown man with children to fall in love with me, and I hadn’t put a stop to it.
The story turned out to be about Joe Koetters, a popular English teacher at two elite Los Angeles schools, Marlborough School and the Polytechnic School. He has now left his job after BuzzFeed called his employer for a comment. The school knew Koetters had already been sending inappropriate messages to students back in 2011 but even after the author of the XOJane article complained about his behavior, he remained a teacher at the school until she published the essay years later.
What the internet hasn’t had yet is a face to put with a name. Here is Joe Koetters: